mayachel
Brilliant_Rock
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So far, the venue is booked, the dress is bought, hotel rooms are reserved. My parents have generously and graciously paid for all of it. DF''s parents (are divorced-with different incomes) have both told my parents that "if they can help in anyway please let them know". My parents have not asked for help, or rejected it.
So...now we are a good 6+ months into planning, and my parents have blown their own budget. It is hard for DF and I to know how to proceed. My parents would happily stretch their last dollar for us, which I''d prefer they didn''t do. We were always going to both sets of parents on the invite, though listed as my parents hosting.
If we take DF''s parents up on the offer to pay for individual things, such as the photographer or band...at what point do we "of course" include them as "hosting" the wedding in our invitation wording vs. simply listing them.
DF is worried that there are still incidentals that will need to be paid and so I feel if we are going to give everyone equal hosting credit, we should divide the whole cost of the wedding down the middle (his parent are in a position to handle that, but may make my parents feel icky or like what they originally offered us wasn''t "enough").
Ideas? Suggestions?
So...now we are a good 6+ months into planning, and my parents have blown their own budget. It is hard for DF and I to know how to proceed. My parents would happily stretch their last dollar for us, which I''d prefer they didn''t do. We were always going to both sets of parents on the invite, though listed as my parents hosting.
If we take DF''s parents up on the offer to pay for individual things, such as the photographer or band...at what point do we "of course" include them as "hosting" the wedding in our invitation wording vs. simply listing them.
DF is worried that there are still incidentals that will need to be paid and so I feel if we are going to give everyone equal hosting credit, we should divide the whole cost of the wedding down the middle (his parent are in a position to handle that, but may make my parents feel icky or like what they originally offered us wasn''t "enough").
Ideas? Suggestions?