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Ideal_Rock
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Long story NOT short...
I spent a long weekend at my cousin''s house to have some time with her and my nephew. It was great being able to spend a few days with the baby as they live a few hours away and I don''t see them often. Although spending time with baby and my cuz was fun, I felt sooooooo bad for their dog. A little background: My cousin and got her dog shortly after FI and I got ours. When she got her pup she treated that puppy like GOLD--bought her clothes
, spent lots of time with her, made her the baby of their little family. Whenever I would go visit, I''d bring along my dog and they''d have a blast. Now, I know that I love my dog very much. I don''t pretend she''s a human, but she is definitely part of the family and FI and I take very good care of her. This means we take her out for long walks or runs in the park every single day. Her diet is very important to us, as is her overall health. I get made fun of because of this, but that''s okay, because I am not ashamed of the fact that we take good care of her--she is, afterall, our responsibility.
Here''s the thing. When I was visiting, I noticed that my cousin is completely neglecting her pooch. When I got to the house the dog was all over me, dying for some attention! The last few times I was there for a few days I noticed her dog was being neglected but I figured with the new baby, it might take them a bit to get into a routine, so I took it upon myself to take her out for walks and show her some attention (she''s a very loveable, cuddly doggy, so that is very easy to do . This time around it really bothered me. The dog sits by the window and stares outside all day. When she has to go out, they clip her leash (that''s tied to the porch) and she has about 4-5 ft of walking space. So again, I took her out for walks and tried to show her some love. When I brought the subject up, my cousin told me that when the baby comes you no longer feel the same way about your dog. She says it doesn''t compare. Well, no sh*t. I know one can''t love their dog as much as their child, but does that mean you stop loving your dog enough to care for her properly?!
She told me the same will happen to me and I flat out told her NO WAY. My cousin''s fiancé then proceeded to tell me that maybe not in my case since we love our dog more than anyone in our family (which he said sarcastically...whatever
). I told FI that very same night and he was really upset. He loves animals and can''t stand to see people mistreat them. Now, let me say here, had this been just an oversight on their parts (too busy because they just brought the baby home) then I wouldn''t have minded, but the baby is now 7 months old. Also, I''ve noticed the way my cousin talks to her dog. She calls her ''the dog'' now
When she does call her over by her name, she doesn''t do it in a sweet way. I feel heartbroken for this dog.
Yea, they aren''t technically abusing her, but in a way they are. Dogs need to be outside and need to be walked! I know this isn''t just about the baby either because the last few times I brought my dog with me to visit, I noticed she stopped treating the dogs with respect. Once she got upset at the dogs and threw their food on the floor!
That was the last time my Sophie went there.
I don''t know what to do...
So for some of the moms here (or anyone) has this happened to you? Or have you seen this? What would you do?
I spent a long weekend at my cousin''s house to have some time with her and my nephew. It was great being able to spend a few days with the baby as they live a few hours away and I don''t see them often. Although spending time with baby and my cuz was fun, I felt sooooooo bad for their dog. A little background: My cousin and got her dog shortly after FI and I got ours. When she got her pup she treated that puppy like GOLD--bought her clothes
Here''s the thing. When I was visiting, I noticed that my cousin is completely neglecting her pooch. When I got to the house the dog was all over me, dying for some attention! The last few times I was there for a few days I noticed her dog was being neglected but I figured with the new baby, it might take them a bit to get into a routine, so I took it upon myself to take her out for walks and show her some attention (she''s a very loveable, cuddly doggy, so that is very easy to do . This time around it really bothered me. The dog sits by the window and stares outside all day. When she has to go out, they clip her leash (that''s tied to the porch) and she has about 4-5 ft of walking space. So again, I took her out for walks and tried to show her some love. When I brought the subject up, my cousin told me that when the baby comes you no longer feel the same way about your dog. She says it doesn''t compare. Well, no sh*t. I know one can''t love their dog as much as their child, but does that mean you stop loving your dog enough to care for her properly?!
She told me the same will happen to me and I flat out told her NO WAY. My cousin''s fiancé then proceeded to tell me that maybe not in my case since we love our dog more than anyone in our family (which he said sarcastically...whatever
I don''t know what to do...
So for some of the moms here (or anyone) has this happened to you? Or have you seen this? What would you do?