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Brilliant_Rock
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HELP! I need some advice on Diamond buying etiquette. I am on my 5th diamond from the same B/M jeweler. And I was wondering, how many upgrades are too many before they get sick of me being unable to make up my mind. Here''s what happened. I bought the first stone, and while it was being set, I decided it had too many inclusions on the cert. I originally set a budget of $3,200, so my saleslady found me a .73 I1 G stone, I changed it that day. Then my fiance upped his budget and 2nd I got a .72 SI2 E, then before the 30 days return policy was up, I asked my fiance if we could get a 1 carat, since the .72 looked small on me. (I''m 5''10"), we did and again upped the budget and got a 1.02c VS2 E stone for $9,000, but wait, then it still looked small and my fiance said "for $9,000 I was sure it would be bigger. I then began to think, "Hey for $9,000 I could go lower color and clarity and get a bigger stone, by now I figured the sales ladies hated me, but I was on a mission to find "The Perfect Stone" (My fiance said he didn''t want to go any higher than $9,000, so I had to get the biggest stone I could with great cut in that price-range) I was able to get a 1.23 G SI1, which seemed great, but as I began looking around me, the size that looked perfect to me was 2ct. I figured I could never have one and should be happy with what I had, but the feeling kept hounting me. Whenever I would see a ring I liked on someone it was always 1.75 - 2.00, and I would slink away knowing I would not be able to get the ring of my dreams. I got these first 4 stones all within 4 months. Now 13 months later and 4 weeks before my wedding, my fiance said, how much more would it cost to get your 2ct, (he still felt my stone was smaller than he wanted.) I didn''t want to spend too much more so I figured about $7,000 more. I was wrong, I went to the jeweler soooo excited, and she had a beautiful stone for $8,000 more. A J SI1 2.00 stone. It was in my price range and looked great in the store. I was sooo happy, I cried when I saw it in my setting. The size was PERFECT! I had finally gotten to get my dream ring that I waited over a year for. I was in heaven! Then the worst ever happened! Because I wanted a 2c sooo bad, I had compromised in cut, thinking it wouldn''t make THAT much of a difference, WRONG! I went from an Excellent Cut to a Good Cut, and my new stone, although under certain light could muster up sparkle, it didn''t hold a candle to my 1.23 stone''s performance. Now I was crying out of sadness, I was too ashamed to tell anyone, that I wanted to trade in yet, another stone, I figured the sales lady would not want to work with me and be mad that I had wasted her time. And think, "What happened? She loved it yesterday!", so I was going to just keep the stone I had picked, and day after day, I kept getting sadder and sadder about having to spend the rest of my life feeling less than thrilled with my stone. (Even though the 1.23 was smaller than I wanted, the cut and clarity were perfect. I use to stare at my stone all day long because it was so sparkly and full of fire) Then I figured, I am going to muster up the courage, and just call my sales lady and explain. It had only been 4 days, so I was still within the 30 day period for returns. I am happy to say, I am no longer in a hurry to get a stone and am taking my time to get a most wonderful stone. My fiance told me to spend whatever I need and get "the perfect stone" . So for the first time in my stone buying experience, I get to pick what I want, not what costs a certain amount. This time should be the end of the journey, since I now am certain of all 4 C''s that I want. I am currently looking at Excellent cut stones and am going to go slow, and not settle for anything but exactly what I want. I am really scared, because this is it. I get married in 3 weeks, and I want the stone I get married in to be with me forever, no changing after I say "I Do"! I go to look at 4 stones next week to pick out #6 THE FINAL STONE! Please let me know if anyone else has ever gone through this, and should I be embarrassed or uncomfortable when I show my face in the showroom again. OR.....are they use to going through this much trouble to sell a diamond. My final cost will be over $20,00, so I figure, they can''t hate me too much I hope!