I''m sorry to subject you to more, but I could use your advice.
FIL just had an accident that resulted in surgery (thankfully, there will be no permanent damage). MIL is caring for him, along with her parents. Yesterday, she called FI at work to ask him to do some things. He passed them on to me, and I have no problem pitching in. BUT, FI also requested that I go to Michigan to help MIL out. He swore that he wouldn''t hold it against me if I said "no." He acknowledged that I''m not in the pink of health myself. He said that one of the reasons behind his request is that my going would mend matters between the ILs and ourselves -- they have said that our no-guest policy, coupled with our not visiting them when they live abroad (even though we explained that we haven''t had much vacation time) means that we''re cutting them out of our life.
1. Should FI have made that request of me?
2. Shouldn''t MIL have called on Precious Wecious instead? FI''s job involves monitoring the markets, and I myself try not to
disturb him at work.
3. Shouldn''t Precious Wecious be the one to go to Michigan? I''m on medical leave so that I can recover, not so that I can
play nurse. I urged FI to tell Precious Wecious to buck up, but FI says that his behavious is none of our business.
4. Would you go if you were me?
Thanks.
FIL just had an accident that resulted in surgery (thankfully, there will be no permanent damage). MIL is caring for him, along with her parents. Yesterday, she called FI at work to ask him to do some things. He passed them on to me, and I have no problem pitching in. BUT, FI also requested that I go to Michigan to help MIL out. He swore that he wouldn''t hold it against me if I said "no." He acknowledged that I''m not in the pink of health myself. He said that one of the reasons behind his request is that my going would mend matters between the ILs and ourselves -- they have said that our no-guest policy, coupled with our not visiting them when they live abroad (even though we explained that we haven''t had much vacation time) means that we''re cutting them out of our life.
1. Should FI have made that request of me?
2. Shouldn''t MIL have called on Precious Wecious instead? FI''s job involves monitoring the markets, and I myself try not to
disturb him at work.
3. Shouldn''t Precious Wecious be the one to go to Michigan? I''m on medical leave so that I can recover, not so that I can
play nurse. I urged FI to tell Precious Wecious to buck up, but FI says that his behavious is none of our business.
4. Would you go if you were me?
Thanks.