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Brilliant_Rock
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Hi everyone -
(this is a cross-post from BWW)...
So, I broached the topic of wedding gifts with my FI a couple of weeks ago. Every single one of my friends exchanged gifts with their partner on their wedding day, but my guy is really not ''gift oriented'', and said that he had never heard of this, but would exchange gifts if I wanted to. I was thinking of a DBTY bracelet or 16" chain for myself (believe me, unless I specifically suggest something to him, it won''t happen).
I have two issues - now this whole ''gift exchange'' thing is starting to feel rather contrived to me. It bothers me that my FI is not more ''into'' gift giving, but I''m not sure that that''s going to change at this point. I really enjoy choosing and giving gifts to people, and it''s not the actual item that is significant to me, but the effort and desire to find something that someone is bound to like and be touched by. My FI had never just bought me a gift without it having been chosen by one of my friends or else his mother. The cost is not an issue. I have a tendency to read this as ''he can''t be bothered to think of anything that might please me'', although deep down I don''t think that this is the case - I think that his brain is just not wired for gift giving.
OK, I''m rambling - back to the issue at hand. I''m trying to figure out if I would be disappointed if we didn''t exchange gifts on our wedding day. As I said, it''s starting to feel a little contrived to me. That said, if we do exchange gifts, I find myself surprisingly at a loss as to what to get him...
I''ve gotten him many thoughtful gifts over the course of our relationship - some of them quite significant. He''s not into jewelry and leads quite a minimalist life. He turned 40 this year and I commissioned a beautiful carving for him out of some stone from a quarry that one of his companies owns. He loved it.
His hobbies are mineral exploration and helicopters, which don''t lend themselves well to a wedding gift (unless I wish to get him a helicopter turbine or some mining equipment). He would like a nice watch, but we had planned to purchase his and hers watches with some of the cash that we get as wedding gifts, and the watch that he''d like is out of my price range to purchase solo. I was thinking around $1000.
I realize that I''ve raised several issues here, but am wondering if anyone has any feedback that might help me?
Thanks, and have a great day!
(this is a cross-post from BWW)...
So, I broached the topic of wedding gifts with my FI a couple of weeks ago. Every single one of my friends exchanged gifts with their partner on their wedding day, but my guy is really not ''gift oriented'', and said that he had never heard of this, but would exchange gifts if I wanted to. I was thinking of a DBTY bracelet or 16" chain for myself (believe me, unless I specifically suggest something to him, it won''t happen).
I have two issues - now this whole ''gift exchange'' thing is starting to feel rather contrived to me. It bothers me that my FI is not more ''into'' gift giving, but I''m not sure that that''s going to change at this point. I really enjoy choosing and giving gifts to people, and it''s not the actual item that is significant to me, but the effort and desire to find something that someone is bound to like and be touched by. My FI had never just bought me a gift without it having been chosen by one of my friends or else his mother. The cost is not an issue. I have a tendency to read this as ''he can''t be bothered to think of anything that might please me'', although deep down I don''t think that this is the case - I think that his brain is just not wired for gift giving.
OK, I''m rambling - back to the issue at hand. I''m trying to figure out if I would be disappointed if we didn''t exchange gifts on our wedding day. As I said, it''s starting to feel a little contrived to me. That said, if we do exchange gifts, I find myself surprisingly at a loss as to what to get him...
I''ve gotten him many thoughtful gifts over the course of our relationship - some of them quite significant. He''s not into jewelry and leads quite a minimalist life. He turned 40 this year and I commissioned a beautiful carving for him out of some stone from a quarry that one of his companies owns. He loved it.
His hobbies are mineral exploration and helicopters, which don''t lend themselves well to a wedding gift (unless I wish to get him a helicopter turbine or some mining equipment). He would like a nice watch, but we had planned to purchase his and hers watches with some of the cash that we get as wedding gifts, and the watch that he''d like is out of my price range to purchase solo. I was thinking around $1000.
I realize that I''ve raised several issues here, but am wondering if anyone has any feedback that might help me?
Thanks, and have a great day!