DiamondGirlxja
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I guess you don''t "deserve" it. Bad Girl. Maybe working too hard climbing the ladder? Here''s the good news! You''ll be able to afford your OWN bling & not wait for any man to dole it out like candy for being "deserving"! And, um, I wouldn''t marry that "heartbreaker" -- sounds quite misogynistic.Date: 7/18/2007 3:48:33 PM
Author:DiamondGirlxja
One minute he said yes, he told me he paid and gave me a date to get the ring, the next moment he said I dont deserve it. Now I am heart broken. Any thoughts....
LMAO....even if it wasn''t meant to be funny....Date: 7/18/2007 4:04:44 PM
Author: decodelighted
I guess you don''t ''deserve'' it. Bad Girl. Maybe working too hard climbing the ladder? Here''s the good news! You''ll be able to afford your OWN bling & not wait for any man to dole it out like candy for being ''deserving''! And, um, I wouldn''t marry that ''heartbreaker'' -- sounds quite misogynistic.Date: 7/18/2007 3:48:33 PM
Author:DiamondGirlxja
One minute he said yes, he told me he paid and gave me a date to get the ring, the next moment he said I dont deserve it. Now I am heart broken. Any thoughts....
My cousin has a huge house in my city worth over 1 million, with exotic cars and I love that she wears her 3/4 carat diamond! She serves as the SW''s Regional HR VP for a Publically Traded Company. She rocks. I think she is so cool for that. hehehe She also has some really lovely gems and diamonds but she wears her 3/4th carat w/pride.Date: 7/18/2007 4:18:46 PM
Author: Nicrez
I know many women who will wear jewlery pieces worth hundreds of thousands on dollars on the same hand their .45ct engagement ring is.
I have to say it''s a testament to me of where you came from to where you get. I would rather just get some complimentary pieces like a stunning large solitaire or even wait for a nice anniversary gift.
ETA: By the way, I know someone who is an executive at a fortune 500 (top 40), wears her Tiffany 78pt everyday to work. Then she gets in her 5 new series BMW and drives uptown to her apartment by the park on weekdays and on the weekends drives straight up to her estate in the country. She has an extensive collection or rare collectable watches that are worth more than people''s salaries around her, and yet they are just unceremoniously on her wrist with that 78pter...
Don't deserve it? wth. Are you some kind of dog that has to do tricks to get a ring? I sure wouldn't stand for that from anybody. You work, you want something and you can afford it then it really doesn't have anything to do with deserving it. You were good enough to deserve his devotion and love for the rest of your life, so what then, the diamond ring is more valuable than him and his love? I would be really mad, in fact, I am really mad and if I knew the two of you he would def be hearing it from me.One minute he said yes, he told me he paid and gave me a date to get the ring, the next moment he said I dont deserve it. Now I am heart broken. Any thoughts....
I''d be a little more concerned with your relationship dynamic if this is what really happened.style="WIDTH: 99%; HEIGHT: 68px">Date: 7/18/2007 4:06:12 PM
Author: DiamondGirlxja
he wanted me to do a business deal with him after i said no he changed his mind.
Date: 7/18/2007 3:48:33 PM
Author:DiamondGirlxja
I have a beautiful one carat ring. However, I work for a fortune 500 company and I am moving up in the world. I know this is so ridiculous, but I need a bigger ring. I mean its not a matter of need, of course, but I just feel where I am and everything it would help. Not to mention I am 5'10 and I think a larger ring would compliment me more and I love big jewelry. With that being said, my fiance promised me that at the end of the year I would upgrade my ring. Well here we are one year later and he is breaking my heart. One minute he said yes, he told me he paid and gave me a date to get the ring, the next moment he said I dont deserve it. Now I am heart broken. Any thoughts....
you''re considering marrying a man who is *that* spiteful?Date: 7/18/2007 4:06:12 PM
Author: DiamondGirlxja
my heart is broken. i cant tell you i feel like i got punched in the stomach. he wanted me to do a business deal with him after i said no he changed his mind.
Date: 7/18/2007 4:29:18 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
Date: 7/18/2007 3:48:33 PM
Author:DiamondGirlxja
I have a beautiful one carat ring. However, I work for a fortune 500 company and I am moving up in the world. I know this is so ridiculous, but I need a bigger ring. I mean its not a matter of need, of course, but I just feel where I am and everything it would help. Not to mention I am 5'10 and I think a larger ring would compliment me more and I love big jewelry. With that being said, my fiance promised me that at the end of the year I would upgrade my ring. Well here we are one year later and he is breaking my heart. One minute he said yes, he told me he paid and gave me a date to get the ring, the next moment he said I dont deserve it. Now I am heart broken. Any thoughts....
My husband wouldn't DARE say something like that. If you don't *deserve* a bigger ring then he doesn't *deserve* you. There are many reasons NOT to get a bigger diamond, but if he thinks it is because you don't DESERVE it then he doesn't DESERVE to be the one offering.
he might as well say you are unworthy
Totally agree. The whole thing has a fishy sound to it ... at best, he''s immature/spiteful/degrading ... at WORST, he could be a con-artist.Date: 7/18/2007 4:28:00 PM
Author: Hest88
I''d be a little more concerned with your relationship dynamic if this is what really happened.style="WIDTH: 99%; HEIGHT: 68px">Date: 7/18/2007 4:06:12 PM
Author: DiamondGirlxja
he wanted me to do a business deal with him after i said no he changed his mind.
true enough, though I think your optimism is irritatingDate: 7/18/2007 4:43:15 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone
Date: 7/18/2007 4:29:18 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
Date: 7/18/2007 3:48:33 PM
Author:DiamondGirlxja
I have a beautiful one carat ring. However, I work for a fortune 500 company and I am moving up in the world. I know this is so ridiculous, but I need a bigger ring. I mean its not a matter of need, of course, but I just feel where I am and everything it would help. Not to mention I am 5''10 and I think a larger ring would compliment me more and I love big jewelry. With that being said, my fiance promised me that at the end of the year I would upgrade my ring. Well here we are one year later and he is breaking my heart. One minute he said yes, he told me he paid and gave me a date to get the ring, the next moment he said I dont deserve it. Now I am heart broken. Any thoughts....
My husband wouldn''t DARE say something like that. If you don''t *deserve* a bigger ring then he doesn''t *deserve* you. There are many reasons NOT to get a bigger diamond, but if he thinks it is because you don''t DESERVE it then he doesn''t DESERVE to be the one offering.
he might as well say you are unworthy
There are 2 sides to every story... being bratty for example might constitute a comment such as this...
ETA: Is it really worth getting that worked up about when you have so much to be grateful for?
Sorry Cehra, just always look on the brightside and we all know men are relationship impaired and things come out sideways sometimes. Here would be the conversation with my man:Date: 7/18/2007 4:51:25 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
true enough, though I think your optimism is irritatingDate: 7/18/2007 4:43:15 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone
Date: 7/18/2007 4:29:18 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
Date: 7/18/2007 3:48:33 PM
Author:DiamondGirlxja
I have a beautiful one carat ring. However, I work for a fortune 500 company and I am moving up in the world. I know this is so ridiculous, but I need a bigger ring. I mean its not a matter of need, of course, but I just feel where I am and everything it would help. Not to mention I am 5''10 and I think a larger ring would compliment me more and I love big jewelry. With that being said, my fiance promised me that at the end of the year I would upgrade my ring. Well here we are one year later and he is breaking my heart. One minute he said yes, he told me he paid and gave me a date to get the ring, the next moment he said I dont deserve it. Now I am heart broken. Any thoughts....
My husband wouldn''t DARE say something like that. If you don''t *deserve* a bigger ring then he doesn''t *deserve* you. There are many reasons NOT to get a bigger diamond, but if he thinks it is because you don''t DESERVE it then he doesn''t DESERVE to be the one offering.
he might as well say you are unworthy
There are 2 sides to every story... being bratty for example might constitute a comment such as this...
ETA: Is it really worth getting that worked up about when you have so much to be grateful for?
Seriously - only she knows the context in which that comment was made and all we have is that the comment was made. I could see my husband saying something like that with a wink and a smile and perhaps he''s saying that because he''s already bought her something bigger... but if there was any shred of seriousness in that comment I''d boot his ''side of the story'' to the curb.
Date: 7/18/2007 4:40:34 PM
Author: DiamondGirlxja
it was his idea to updrage it and he has been talking about it for a year. he went to the jewelry store he had me talk to the lady he told me he paid- it wasnt my idea..now i cant get the idea out of my head
Date: 7/18/2007 4:59:25 PM
Author: LaurenThePartier
Date: 7/18/2007 4:40:34 PM
Author: DiamondGirlxja
it was his idea to updrage it and he has been talking about it for a year. he went to the jewelry store he had me talk to the lady he told me he paid- it wasnt my idea..now i cant get the idea out of my head
Hmmmm, that certainly sounds like he was promoting the idea.
However, I feel as if your desire to upgrade beyond his spawning of the idea to do so may be misplaced. I''m at Director level myself with a .71 Asscher, so my diamond faces up like a .50 round, and I interact with C-Level Exectutives at Fortune 500 companies all day long. Sure, you run into several people who have huge rings, but generally, the women I meet in positions of power who have 2+ ct. diamonds are into their late 40s and 50s, and sometimes, more often than not, they wear just a simple diamond eternity band. If you start comparing everything you have to what other people have, you''ll always be disappointed. To quote Ben Folds ''There''s always someone cooler than you.''
However, if you were whinging about it and tormenting him, I can see how he may have rescinded his offer. Men do that - they hate to be reminded over and over again of their promises, and will sometimes snatch it away as punishment for being overbearing. Leave him alone about it, don''t mention the upgrade again, and be happy with your 1 ct. diamond. Maybe he''ll change his mind. Maybe you should pay for a halo setting yourself to bump up the bling factor.
I think you''re missing the point of the symbol, and maybe you should just enjoy what you have for a little while - at least until after the wedding.