Logan Sapphire
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Date: 6/8/2009 5:36:52 PM
Author: MC
What are the 'issues?' I'm an only child and probably have all of them issues! heheheDate: 6/8/2009 5:32:01 PM
Author: musey
We want two... I'm afraid of the stereotypical 'issues' that only children have, because I've known a few people who really exhibited those, umm, issuesMy husband is an exception, though.
Anyway, I've always known I wanted more than one. At least two, hopefully not more than three. It's always been a given in my mind.
Like I said, stereotypical. I wasn't trying to bash only children, like I said, my husband is one. I was mostly joking, not trying to cause any offense!Date: 6/8/2009 5:53:02 PM
Author: Elmorton
Musey - as an only, when I read this, I think that only children have the least problems (but then again, I think we often accept our own personalities and reject others'): http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/birth_order.htm
Also, I believe there is definitely a stigma for only children based on simple envy - it's easy to call a child 'spoiled' because the family has more resources for the child when the child throws a tantrum just like any other child does - but you probably wouldn't jump to call a youngest spoiled when he/she is throwing a tantrum, even though that child might be. And, it does depend on parenting. Some parents will be overbearing with an only, but those same parents might be the same way with multiple children.
I think birth order is really interesting - I definitely see elements of my personality that seem obviously birth-order related, that doesn't tell the whole story. Oh! And just so you know, only children as adults to be more mature than their peers, tend to accomplish goals that others find impossible, and tend to be highly motivated/successful.
LOL, I just read this, and the bullet points so accurately describe my siblings and I!Date: 6/8/2009 5:53:02 PM
Author: Elmorton
Musey - as an only, when I read this, I think that only children have the least problems (but then again, I think we often accept our own personalities and reject others''): http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/development/birth_order.htm
I was raised by not one, but *two* child psychologists who tried like heck to keep me from having these "issues". Lol I guess you''d have to ask my FI and close friends to know if they succeededDate: 6/8/2009 5:36:52 PM
Author: MC
What are the ''issues?'' I''m an only child and probably have all of them issues! heheheDate: 6/8/2009 5:32:01 PM
Author: musey
We want two... I''m afraid of the stereotypical ''issues'' that only children have, because I''ve known a few people who really exhibited those, umm, issuesMy husband is an exception, though.
Anyway, I''ve always known I wanted more than one. At least two, hopefully not more than three. It''s always been a given in my mind.
I know you weren''t trying to bash only children. All kids, regardless of simblings or not, have issues. Even if a family has many kids, maybe one child would be a favorite and spoiled more than the others.Date: 6/8/2009 9:30:18 PM
Author: musey
Date: 6/8/2009 5:36:52 PM
Author: MC
What are the ''issues?'' I''m an only child and probably have all of them issues! hehehe
Like I said, stereotypical. I wasn''t trying to bash only children, like I said, my husband is one. I was mostly joking, not trying to cause any offense!
I''ve known a few ''kids'' (in high school and college) who lived up to the stereotype (extremely self-centered and egotistical), and of course WAY more that didn''t.
LS- I didnt read all the responses, so I apologize if some of this was said already.
I am one of six kids, and wouldn't have it any other way. I absolutely ADORE my siblings, and loved being part of a large family. However, I know I want 2 kids max.
Not to thread-jack, but yes. He says he is ready to get married and have a child but the back of my mind keeps whispering that just because it''ll make me happy, doesn''t mean that''s what''s best for him.Date: 6/9/2009 2:26:28 PM
Author: janinegirly
LS : wow, she is a cutie!.
DD: why test fate..haha, that''s a great way to explain it.
SP: are you still with the bf and on the fence because of that? just curious, I''m probably prying. I agree just one makes it easier for a couple to still have a semblance of their original life..well, easier but not the same as pre-kids of course!