Sounds like a good plan! I'm happy to see that you're just taking things as they come! I absolutely am certain that your positive outlook will help you remain happy with how the day actually unfolds despite anything that may not go as planned.TooPatient|1381723119|3537300 said:
Thanks madelise! I'm happy to have it settled! My older sister owns them now, but my little sister also wore them as her something borrowed for her wedding! My great grandmother passed in 2002 and left them to my grandmother who passed them to my older sister for her college graduation in 2008. I wish I'd gotten them! But ah well. At least I get to borrow them and had a chance to clean them up! I'm taking them to the jeweler when I go take my ring for polishing/replating next week to have them check on the prongs and overall stability of the settings since she hasn't had anything done to them since she got them and they probably hadn't been cleaned/checked in many years prior to that.madelise|1381719602|3537269 said:
audball|1381757815|3537443 said:WOW! That was long! I'm sure mine has evolved and changed too! Just goes to show how things change throughout the planning process! I'm so ready for this part to be over and be on to the married bliss part! You reminded me, though, I need to add thank you cards to my to-do list!
audball|1381757709|3537440 said:
Ditto! I feel like all of our other goals and things have been set aside while we've been saving/planning for the wedding. I'm ready to see our bank account growing again (vs. standing still, or dropping with vendor payments), and making some headway on real life!TooPatient|1381758447|3537456 said:
Yes! Changing my name is a big part of what I've been looking forward to! I know it can take up to 2 weeks to get the certified copy of your marriage license back in order to take that step, coupled with the fact that our wedding is still just over 2 weeks out, I'm hoping the government is back up and running in that time frame so I can head straight to the SS office once I have the license in hand!TooPatient|1381758676|3537458 said:
audball|1381758873|3537460 said:
madelise|1381701486|3537158 said:TP! Eek your wedding is coming up so soon!!! How are you feeling?
Audball - I was just going to ask you about your bridal shower. I'm glad you got such a loving FMIL and friend to throw that for you!
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Personal update: had my first planning meeting last night with my planner slash best friend. I gave her a list of about 20 venues I'm having her contact for the logistics and she and her cousin are going to do all the planning and hard work for up until the wedding. On the days-of, they're hiring another person to coordinate while they attend as guests.
Her feedback to me is that our budget might be too small for what we need. Southern CA is more expensive than I imagined. Her typical clients have weddings for about 150 people, and spend about $50K. I'm trying to spend less than that for TWO weddings, for 50 people, then 250 people. Barf. I found some more affordable venue options, but the food restrictions that FI's family has is probably going to make or break those venue choices
Next Friday, FI and I are going to go check out two restaurants for our small engagement dinner party with the two families. They're very close to my house (less than 5 minutes away), and not very "nice" looking places… but Chinese restaurant and nice are usually not descriptors used togetherOne's a seafood restaurant and one's a vegetarian restaurant. The problem is *always* with FMIL and her dietary pickiness/religious restrictions.
Maybe processing varies by state? I know most of my friends got theirs in the mail after the wedding all within two weeks.I have no clue if that's standard. Our wedding is out of state so that may add to processing time? I was just trying to come up with a ballpark. Awesome that you got yours right away!TooPatient|1381759732|3537468 said:
Squee! I can't WAIT to see them!!antiquesparkler|1381764541|3537509 said:
16 days to go! FI is so cute...we have a countdown going on our a mini white board on the fridge (we use it to write down needed groceries and such) and he left me a sweet note before he left for work today that said "16...until I get to marry my Queen".antiquesparkler|1381764541|3537509 said:
I love that he's so excited too! You'll feel SO SO SO much better once your plans are laid out and people are in the know. I can't wait to hear more details about your plans!antiquesparkler|1381764541|3537509 said:Mini update for us: SO agreed to call his mom this week and talk to her about our elopement and make sure she is okay with it. I love her and I need her to be alright with everything. Then we can start moving forward with the planning and choosing a date. We've narrowed down the location to a few choices but I am anxious to have a date.
Aww, that's adorable! We certainly are lucky ladies! So...are you going to spill your tentative plans or do we have to wait!? What places have you narrowed down to!? I totally need something else (besides my own elopement) to fixate on!antiquesparkler|1381769343|3537540 said:Love that note!! How sweet and adorable! You've got a keeper!
When SO and I were done with pictures last night, he highfived me and was like, "We did it! Now on to the wedding!!!" It was so cute to see him happy and excited.
We are lucky ladies!
audball|1381769789|3537546 said:Aww, that's adorable! We certainly are lucky ladies! So...are you going to spill your tentative plans or do we have to wait!? What places have you narrowed down to!? I totally need something else (besides my own elopement) to fixate on!antiquesparkler|1381769343|3537540 said:Love that note!! How sweet and adorable! You've got a keeper!
When SO and I were done with pictures last night, he highfived me and was like, "We did it! Now on to the wedding!!!" It was so cute to see him happy and excited.
We are lucky ladies!
SQUEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe it's literally almost here. 2 days!? Are you kidding me!? Where has the time gone!? I don't even know what I'm going to do with my free time in a few weeks when we don't have each other's wedding status to check up on!TooPatient|1381844909|3538004 said:Day after tomorrow!
Rescheduled mikvah to Wednesday.
Picking up tux and ketubah frame today.
Start to pack.
Schedule nails for Thursday morning (unless the place is open late enough Wed to do after mikvah -- can't go there with polished nails)
Dessert confirmed. Still can't reach baker about cake.
Dog hotel confirmed.
audball|1381845218|3538009 said:SQUEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe it's literally almost here. 2 days!? Are you kidding me!? Where has the time gone!? I don't even know what I'm going to do with my free time in a few weeks when we don't have each other's wedding status to check up on!TooPatient|1381844909|3538004 said:Day after tomorrow!
Rescheduled mikvah to Wednesday.
Picking up tux and ketubah frame today.
Start to pack.
Schedule nails for Thursday morning (unless the place is open late enough Wed to do after mikvah -- can't go there with polished nails)
Dessert confirmed. Still can't reach baker about cake.
Dog hotel confirmed.
What did the chef come up with for the dessert? I'm so curious! I hope your day turns out to be everything you wanted it to be!!
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audball|1381846594|3538016 said:
And have a girl---their stuff is much cuter!"
I can't wait to hear what he came up with! Snap a picture for us!TooPatient|1381847180|3538022 said:
Oh goodness! Haha. I guess the fact that you've been together for nearly 10 years probably has as much to do with as anything. How many kids do you think you guys want to have?TooPatient|1381847180|3538022 said:Here is a snip from an e-mail I got just hours after signing civil papers:
"Next, I get to shop for baby outfits, right?
She's known DH for almost 20 years. He and I have been together for almost 10 years now (known each other longer than that) so that probably makes people figure it will be soon.
I'm also not super young (28 --- which isn't too old!) and he's 29 years older than me... (I suppose this would probably be the thing that has people thinking sooner rather than later)
audball|1381849736|3538042 said:I can't wait to hear what he came up with! Snap a picture for us!TooPatient|1381847180|3538022 said:
Oh goodness! Haha. I guess the fact that you've been together for nearly 10 years probably has as much to do with as anything. How many kids do you think you guys want to have?TooPatient|1381847180|3538022 said:Here is a snip from an e-mail I got just hours after signing civil papers:
"Next, I get to shop for baby outfits, right?
She's known DH for almost 20 years. He and I have been together for almost 10 years now (known each other longer than that) so that probably makes people figure it will be soon.
I'm also not super young (28 --- which isn't too old!) and he's 29 years older than me... (I suppose this would probably be the thing that has people thinking sooner rather than later)
I can't wait to see!!TooPatient|1381850898|3538051 said:
We are most definitely NOT the ones who are sick of hearing about the plans!!antiquesparkler|1381852667|3538070 said:Okay here are our current plans!
Sorry. I can’t remember who I tell and who is sick of hearing about the plans.
Woohoo! Weather in FL is usually really nice in February and March! If you come in March, make sure to pre-check Florida school's spring break weeks, particularly the college spring break week (which is usually different from public secondary schools), because Key West is a cheap and quick getaway for college students. You don't want to be on your honeymoon when they're on Spring Break!antiquesparkler|1381852667|3538070 said:
Love this idea!antiquesparkler|1381852667|3538070 said:Then, when we come back… that May or June we will have a BBQ type event at my parent’s house. They have an amazing yard and we can set up a tent and maybe grill or have catering of some kind and invite 80-100 people to come and hang out with us.
I think everyone would really enjoy that. We're kind of planning something similar, but a tad more formal. We're looking hosting a dinner at a nice restaurant in a private room for 25-30 people in February (about 4 months after the wedding) to share our pictures and have our families officially meet (they haven't yet!).It's always nice to have support! Deciding to elope is very personal and I think so many people forget that the wedding and how it happens really should be about the couple and not about the family (or at least not ONLY about the family). We had a similar scenario in that FI's brother was just married in Spring 2012 and my sister was just married last month so both families recently got the big family get together/celebration and we're on board with our plans. I totally feel your pain on the maybe invite some but not all...ultimately we decided it was all immediate family or no immediate family so we went with no guests. Granted, we don't have any kids which I think makes things a bit different. Do you think his parents would want to come?antiquesparkler|1381852667|3538070 said:
You better post some for us here! I can't wait to see! What did you guys end up deciding to wear anyway?antiquesparkler|1381852667|3538070 said:Our engagement sneak peak should be on facebook any time now and I am dying!!!
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