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I''m not venting about the fact that she is pregnant, I''m venting because I have not had contact with this person for about 9 months now and suddenly DH tells me this past Saturday that she and her husband are having a GTG to watch the Bears game Sunday and we are invited...since this gal and I have had zero communication for almost a year it was immediately apparent to me that they must be announcing their first and long-attempted pregnancy and I was being invited solely for that reason. I declined the invitation, but DH stopped by with one of his guy friends and indeed, the GTG was actually an excuse for them to announce the pregnancy.
She''s been pregnant for all of two weeks. Hasn''t even been to her first doc''s appointment yet, but has told her family and "close" friends, we were "second-tier" on the list of people to tell. That''s fine, I know people have different ideas of when it is appropriate to announce the news, so whatever.
This gal and I were pretty good friends for almost 4 years, I met her because DH was good friends with her husband and we all used to socialize frequently. However, we began having little issues where she would come to our house and point out flaws or things she didn''t like about my decor or whatever very candidly, and imo, rudely. Throughout the time I''ve known her, she and her husband also had done some things that started to freak us out a bit...it seemed like every major purchase we would make (without telling them about), they would end up with a similar or exact item a very short time later. Most recently, she received the exact same watch I currently wear...in the past it''s been little things like household appliances, and as far as big things, she now drives the same SUV as I bought and they moved into our neighborhood two blocks from us about 2 months after we did. The husband used to drive by our house checking to see if we were home, and call my DH''s cell asking where he was and why wasn''t he answering his phone because he just saw DH''s car in our garage. I know...yikes!
That is just a very brief history of what the friendship was like. When the gal started getting in little "digs" here and there with me, I decided it was time to distance myself from her and so far had succeeded. Until now...I know I should suck it up and just be gracious about this whole thing, but I am having a lot of trouble being happy for them. A couple years ago I probably would''ve been completely excited for them and gone out of my way to be supportive and friendly to her, but not now. I feel like this person is expecting me to just forget that she wasn''t a very good friend and just bring on the gifts, already.
Am I selfish/crazy/mean to just send a congrats card and get her a Wal-Mart gift card for the inevitable round of huge showers? (there was a lot of insanity surrounding her wedding, something tells me a new baby will bring even more, lol).
Ordinarily this would not be a big deal in my life...but our husbands are still good friends despite her husband''s sometimes stalker-like behavior. I guess I''m looking for some good, honest advice here. Either tell me I''m being a ninny, or tell me she knows I''m a nice person and a sucker so she''ll be sure to get a great gift out of us. LOL. Thanks for letting me vent, I hate to gossip so talking to friends is out (we all know each other on some level), and talking to DH about it might upset him and I don''t want this to be a source of contention between us.
She''s been pregnant for all of two weeks. Hasn''t even been to her first doc''s appointment yet, but has told her family and "close" friends, we were "second-tier" on the list of people to tell. That''s fine, I know people have different ideas of when it is appropriate to announce the news, so whatever.
This gal and I were pretty good friends for almost 4 years, I met her because DH was good friends with her husband and we all used to socialize frequently. However, we began having little issues where she would come to our house and point out flaws or things she didn''t like about my decor or whatever very candidly, and imo, rudely. Throughout the time I''ve known her, she and her husband also had done some things that started to freak us out a bit...it seemed like every major purchase we would make (without telling them about), they would end up with a similar or exact item a very short time later. Most recently, she received the exact same watch I currently wear...in the past it''s been little things like household appliances, and as far as big things, she now drives the same SUV as I bought and they moved into our neighborhood two blocks from us about 2 months after we did. The husband used to drive by our house checking to see if we were home, and call my DH''s cell asking where he was and why wasn''t he answering his phone because he just saw DH''s car in our garage. I know...yikes!
That is just a very brief history of what the friendship was like. When the gal started getting in little "digs" here and there with me, I decided it was time to distance myself from her and so far had succeeded. Until now...I know I should suck it up and just be gracious about this whole thing, but I am having a lot of trouble being happy for them. A couple years ago I probably would''ve been completely excited for them and gone out of my way to be supportive and friendly to her, but not now. I feel like this person is expecting me to just forget that she wasn''t a very good friend and just bring on the gifts, already.
Am I selfish/crazy/mean to just send a congrats card and get her a Wal-Mart gift card for the inevitable round of huge showers? (there was a lot of insanity surrounding her wedding, something tells me a new baby will bring even more, lol).
Ordinarily this would not be a big deal in my life...but our husbands are still good friends despite her husband''s sometimes stalker-like behavior. I guess I''m looking for some good, honest advice here. Either tell me I''m being a ninny, or tell me she knows I''m a nice person and a sucker so she''ll be sure to get a great gift out of us. LOL. Thanks for letting me vent, I hate to gossip so talking to friends is out (we all know each other on some level), and talking to DH about it might upset him and I don''t want this to be a source of contention between us.