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Ideal_Rock
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Well, I just returned to my hometown for the last few days of my holiday. I''ve been in another city visiting my sister and one of my brothers. My sister has a different mother (let''s call her Mary) - my dad''s last wife - and on the train on the way here (we came together) Mary asked sis (via cellphone) to invite me to dinner with her parents (sis'' grandparents that is) and sister and BIL. Then she picked us up at the train station and drove me to my father''s house.
For a little background. We never got along. I always had a very strong sense that she resented us and personally disliked us. I mean, a lot. In fact, she was completely downright mean to us most of the time. Plus the divorce was VERY vitriolic and Mary was devastated when my dad left her. I haven''t seen her in four years, and basically thought I''d never see her again.
Then suddenly she''s giving me lifts and inviting me to dinner?!
Sis has been telling me how she''s so much happier now than she''s ever been and it really SHOWED in the car. She was laughing at all my jokes... like really LAUGHING. I can''t remember EVER hearing her laugh before. And she looked great.
Anyway, here''s my dilemma. Isn''t it weird to invite your ex-step-daughter to dinner with your family who aren''t her family? When you HATE her dad? Anyone ever heard of such a thing before? I mean, my older brother and I take very good care of her kids and really look out for them, and we''re very close (the kids that is) but why this sudden burst of ''come to the family dinner''?
It''s totally thrown me for a loop. She never even liked us. Never even been pleasant to us. It''s just so weird. But she was so nice about it, even saying ''I understand if it would be overwhelming.'' and ''if not today hopefully another time''.
Should I go to dinner? With all her relatives? Would YOU go?
My sis and littlest bro clearly want me to go. But it was definitely Mary''s idea.
For a little background. We never got along. I always had a very strong sense that she resented us and personally disliked us. I mean, a lot. In fact, she was completely downright mean to us most of the time. Plus the divorce was VERY vitriolic and Mary was devastated when my dad left her. I haven''t seen her in four years, and basically thought I''d never see her again.
Then suddenly she''s giving me lifts and inviting me to dinner?!
Sis has been telling me how she''s so much happier now than she''s ever been and it really SHOWED in the car. She was laughing at all my jokes... like really LAUGHING. I can''t remember EVER hearing her laugh before. And she looked great.
Anyway, here''s my dilemma. Isn''t it weird to invite your ex-step-daughter to dinner with your family who aren''t her family? When you HATE her dad? Anyone ever heard of such a thing before? I mean, my older brother and I take very good care of her kids and really look out for them, and we''re very close (the kids that is) but why this sudden burst of ''come to the family dinner''?
It''s totally thrown me for a loop. She never even liked us. Never even been pleasant to us. It''s just so weird. But she was so nice about it, even saying ''I understand if it would be overwhelming.'' and ''if not today hopefully another time''.
Should I go to dinner? With all her relatives? Would YOU go?
My sis and littlest bro clearly want me to go. But it was definitely Mary''s idea.