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Rough_Rock
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- Aug 8, 2008
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Ok let me say WOW, mean girls/and their fiance''s. Wow. I just wanted to relay a little story to you. Im currently getting married but I have been in many weddings and the last one I was one of two girls in weddings and it sucked, was constantly not doing enough, buying enough, paying enough attention, and also let me preface this with the fact that I would call every day the bride and email maid of honor (MOH), but they would have already made decisions and done wedding stuff and just told me what to buy. I tried to be involved but it was MOH''s first wedding and she sucked, basically thought it was her wedding. WOuldnt let me pay for shower b/c she wanted to show how much SHE cared by spending 4 grand on a trendy city restaurant and SHE cared by importing fresh flowers etc etc. I tried to do other things when I could, but it was clear I was not to be involved except to bitch and yell at. (in law school finals and told im not trying hard enough, and mad when said i couldnt afford 500 manola blahnik black slingbacks, when the same ones are 50 bucks online and the dresses were to the floor) and thats not even the whole of it.
It got really bad so I emailed the bride (and I recommend calling b/c too much gets lost in translation), and fully explained my position, my feelings, what I was trying to do to help out, what she would like me to take care of, etc. and there was a lot of stuff i realized we would never see eye to eye on. I thought about dropping out of wedding but was really close with fiance too. SO I put my head up participated and took the initiative where possible, bit my tongue super hard (which is so not like me, very opinionated but try to make the best out of everything).
SO my advice is talk to your sister one on one, FBI''s behavior was unacceptable but thats almost a losing battle, so say your piece and your feelings about it and how you didnt appreciate that even if it was joking, most likely it will continue but word will be out to those involved that you have a backbone, find a "halfway in the know" friend who can help you plan anything you need to plan, and deal with the hostility when it is met, bring bf when at all possible, and let parents know so that is evident, and just do your best to put up with it and still be happy (which may mean removing yourself early from weddingesque events. If not immediately or even at the wedding, you and sister and mean FBI will all know who was the better person in the end, and you might even establish a different sort of relationship with sister. I am the eternal optimist but I know it can suck in your situation, just find a few friendly''s and grit your teetch
It got really bad so I emailed the bride (and I recommend calling b/c too much gets lost in translation), and fully explained my position, my feelings, what I was trying to do to help out, what she would like me to take care of, etc. and there was a lot of stuff i realized we would never see eye to eye on. I thought about dropping out of wedding but was really close with fiance too. SO I put my head up participated and took the initiative where possible, bit my tongue super hard (which is so not like me, very opinionated but try to make the best out of everything).
SO my advice is talk to your sister one on one, FBI''s behavior was unacceptable but thats almost a losing battle, so say your piece and your feelings about it and how you didnt appreciate that even if it was joking, most likely it will continue but word will be out to those involved that you have a backbone, find a "halfway in the know" friend who can help you plan anything you need to plan, and deal with the hostility when it is met, bring bf when at all possible, and let parents know so that is evident, and just do your best to put up with it and still be happy (which may mean removing yourself early from weddingesque events. If not immediately or even at the wedding, you and sister and mean FBI will all know who was the better person in the end, and you might even establish a different sort of relationship with sister. I am the eternal optimist but I know it can suck in your situation, just find a few friendly''s and grit your teetch