Allisonfaye
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I have had an awkward situation for a few years now with my sister. I married very late in life at 39. My husband makes a lot more than my sister''s family income. We traveled and ate out a lot when we first got married but I didn''t talk much about traveling to my sister or my husband''s family. I didn''t want to flaunt it in her face and my sister didn''t seem interested in my trips or hearing about them....in fact, my sister isn''t really interested in hearing about my life. And I don''t really talk about the trips around my in laws because they can''t afford to travel often. I am trying to be considerate.
I know how my sister thinks. Before I got married, our other sister was ''the rich one''. This is a quote from my sister. I know she resented the fact that my other sister could stay home with her kids and travel a bit. So I knew how she felt about me and the kind of comments she makes behind my back. These days, we don''t travel much with little kids and we still are furnishing our new house. EVERY time I buy anything, my sister asks how much it costs. If I buy a piece of jewelry or something for the house, etc. I think this is beyond rude and I am very uncomfortable talking about it and I have told her so flatly, in no uncertain terms. She asks how much my husband makes. She wanted to know how much income someone had to make to ''do whatever we want''. This is ridiculous. We have limits just like everyone else on what we can do.
She gets furious with me for not telling her this. Today, I told her we went to an antique store I had wanted to check out for while. I had an interest in antiques because I bought an antique server and I described it to her. Yes, you guessed it. The next thing she wanted to know was how much it cost. I said I don''t want to discuss it. She gets all mad and says I shouldn''t even tell her I bought it if I won''t tell her how much it costs.
Wouldn''t most people back down at this point and say well, she doesn''t want to tell so I will just forget it? Nope. Not my sister. She will argue and defend her point to the death and browbeat you and badger you until you tell her something. It wears me out.
What do you think? Am I being unreasonable or is she?
I know how my sister thinks. Before I got married, our other sister was ''the rich one''. This is a quote from my sister. I know she resented the fact that my other sister could stay home with her kids and travel a bit. So I knew how she felt about me and the kind of comments she makes behind my back. These days, we don''t travel much with little kids and we still are furnishing our new house. EVERY time I buy anything, my sister asks how much it costs. If I buy a piece of jewelry or something for the house, etc. I think this is beyond rude and I am very uncomfortable talking about it and I have told her so flatly, in no uncertain terms. She asks how much my husband makes. She wanted to know how much income someone had to make to ''do whatever we want''. This is ridiculous. We have limits just like everyone else on what we can do.
She gets furious with me for not telling her this. Today, I told her we went to an antique store I had wanted to check out for while. I had an interest in antiques because I bought an antique server and I described it to her. Yes, you guessed it. The next thing she wanted to know was how much it cost. I said I don''t want to discuss it. She gets all mad and says I shouldn''t even tell her I bought it if I won''t tell her how much it costs.
Wouldn''t most people back down at this point and say well, she doesn''t want to tell so I will just forget it? Nope. Not my sister. She will argue and defend her point to the death and browbeat you and badger you until you tell her something. It wears me out.
What do you think? Am I being unreasonable or is she?