~*Alexis*~
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Ok, I need some advice over my BF''s neices wedding registry.
Over the past 6 months (since i moved in with FFI) I have been called a gold digger, manipulative, selfish and only out for his money. His sister and his neice (mother and daughter) have both made comments about how I have it made in this house (its 3200 sq ft) and how I drive an escalade ( I PAY FOR MY CAR PMT AND HE DOESNT).
Well there have been a war of words with his family for the most i have stayed out of and I chose not to response to their negativeness and FI did. Among things calling them out on their behavior and other few choice words. He thinks it ok not to talk to his sister and go to her wedding and all that. I would rather just move on and not talk about it. However the rest of his family has to hear about how bad he is and how mean he is about what he said...yadda yadda yadda....you get the idea....
Well his mother (is 65) got involved and told them to invite me to her bridal shower, her bachelorette party, etc...
I hate this girl with a passion. I have sucked it up and "taken my place in the family" as suggested by the rest of his family. I have ignored them at family events and we have not discussed what was said/done.
Well I got an invitation to the shower (her MOH is hosting it) and the wedding. Which I will attend of course, however, I have an issue with getting her a gift.
She does not deserve one from me and she has a behavior that she wanted elegant things and expects everyone else to pay for it.
When you enter her house, its one of those houses where you can''t sit or touch anything because everything is just for "looks".
So my issue is what to get her. I pulled her registry from both stores from online and I am appalled with whats on it. Keeping in mind, her and her FI built a home 3 years ago and it is fully furnished with all new furniture and the like.....
The cheapest thing on her registry is $10 (a wash cloth) 1 washcloth. the most expensive is a luxury chaise for her "sitting room'' starting at 1200. She would like 2. This family dynamic is strange to me. FFI''s sister thinks her children can do no wrong. They are angels and they get whatever they want no matter what they do. (the bride had an affair with her FFI while he was married and his then wife was 8 mo pregnant and her other daughter started having sex at 15 with her bf who was 23 at the time.)
If i get her something cheap I will be labeled the one who didnt get her enough although I cannot afford to spend extravagantly on her, no do i want to.
What do I do in this situation? It seems like a no win situation for me. I don''t go and I dont get her something then I am the bad one and they can say I didnt come, although I think the only reason they sent me the invite was so they could say they sent one...
If I go, whatever I get her will not be good enough. I went and bought her 2 wedding albums that were not cheap and thats all I plan on getting her. What else should I get her or should I just stick with what I got???
I am frustrated beyond belief with this situation....
What was the most expensive thing on your lists? How should I handle this situation??
Thanks All--
Over the past 6 months (since i moved in with FFI) I have been called a gold digger, manipulative, selfish and only out for his money. His sister and his neice (mother and daughter) have both made comments about how I have it made in this house (its 3200 sq ft) and how I drive an escalade ( I PAY FOR MY CAR PMT AND HE DOESNT).
Well there have been a war of words with his family for the most i have stayed out of and I chose not to response to their negativeness and FI did. Among things calling them out on their behavior and other few choice words. He thinks it ok not to talk to his sister and go to her wedding and all that. I would rather just move on and not talk about it. However the rest of his family has to hear about how bad he is and how mean he is about what he said...yadda yadda yadda....you get the idea....
Well his mother (is 65) got involved and told them to invite me to her bridal shower, her bachelorette party, etc...
I hate this girl with a passion. I have sucked it up and "taken my place in the family" as suggested by the rest of his family. I have ignored them at family events and we have not discussed what was said/done.
Well I got an invitation to the shower (her MOH is hosting it) and the wedding. Which I will attend of course, however, I have an issue with getting her a gift.
She does not deserve one from me and she has a behavior that she wanted elegant things and expects everyone else to pay for it.
When you enter her house, its one of those houses where you can''t sit or touch anything because everything is just for "looks".
So my issue is what to get her. I pulled her registry from both stores from online and I am appalled with whats on it. Keeping in mind, her and her FI built a home 3 years ago and it is fully furnished with all new furniture and the like.....
The cheapest thing on her registry is $10 (a wash cloth) 1 washcloth. the most expensive is a luxury chaise for her "sitting room'' starting at 1200. She would like 2. This family dynamic is strange to me. FFI''s sister thinks her children can do no wrong. They are angels and they get whatever they want no matter what they do. (the bride had an affair with her FFI while he was married and his then wife was 8 mo pregnant and her other daughter started having sex at 15 with her bf who was 23 at the time.)
If i get her something cheap I will be labeled the one who didnt get her enough although I cannot afford to spend extravagantly on her, no do i want to.
What do I do in this situation? It seems like a no win situation for me. I don''t go and I dont get her something then I am the bad one and they can say I didnt come, although I think the only reason they sent me the invite was so they could say they sent one...
If I go, whatever I get her will not be good enough. I went and bought her 2 wedding albums that were not cheap and thats all I plan on getting her. What else should I get her or should I just stick with what I got???
I am frustrated beyond belief with this situation....
What was the most expensive thing on your lists? How should I handle this situation??
Thanks All--