Daisys and Diamonds
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sorry, i just need someone to talk to
Gary's daughter finally succumbed to breast cancer yesterday
she had beaten it once before and had been given the 5 year all clear
but it came back in her spine, then her liver
she was doing ok
she was on her 5th and final public health system funded round of chemo, it had spread to her lungs
she had been doing so well, keeping it at bay, working, being a mum, being worried about her dad
she came to visit with her brother for Gary's birthday in August
she sent us this big meat pack a few weeks back worring how we were doing
we sent her flowers for her birthday at the end of September, at that stage her prognosis wasn't great, weeks or months if we were lucky but she was optimistic as once before the cancer had disapaired from her lungs
she gave up work and work gifted her her company car
Dylon took unpaid leave from work
then last week she sounded breathless on the phone
she went to hospital for a few days but they didn't have oxygen for her to take home which we all think was total BS and they must just be stock piling it for covid
then on Monday she went into the hospice, just to get her breathing right (they had plenty of oxygen for her to take a unit home)
we saw her on tuesday as we were in Wellington for Gary's eye appointment at Wgtn hospital so we were staying right accross the road and by some miricle 600m from the hospice
She looked so tired, her eyes were very sunken in kind of like darling Tibby looked when we had to take him to the vet on the way to rainbow bridge
Mel was sitting up in a chair, falling asleep momentarily as she had slept baddly for days because of her breathing trouble
she hands were red and sore looking
but she was talking and making conversation sure she would go home on friday
Wednesday we had Gary's apoinment and Mel's hubbie Dylon spent the day with her and brought the kids in (14 & 10)
We knew she'd be tired so we stayed away
Thursday we were on our way home and called in to see her as we left town
they wern't going to let us in because she wasn't up to visitors
Gary had to say this might be the last time he sees his daugter
we were quick, we exchanged i loves yous, her hands were so cold
we knew things were now very bad
as we were driving away Gary's son rang to say to get in their quick as she wasn't expected to last out the day
Gary explained we had just left her so we knew
it was dreadful, he was talking on the phone and driving and crying
As we drove into Porirua 20min latter he started crying at the thought of driving away from here
we got home and waited
(Her brother) Aaron rang latter that night to say Kaleb and little Kiera had been in and she had purked up at seeing them
they were all staying the night with her in the hospice accommodation
we sat at home and waited
i texted work to say i had better stay home on friday
the next morning we had toast for breakfast and waited
Aaron rang just before lunch to say she was gone
Poor Gary
and also her poor Hubbie, her kids, her own mum
i dont know what to do to help Gary, he's ok most of the time
i make cups of tea and serve food
yesterday after his nana nap he woke up crying
today i feel alot more tearful, like its really sinking in she's gone
she was certainly at least as close to me as my sister (but a lot more freindly)
there is no one to visit us here, just the two of us and Borris and Fluffa Duffa who are giving their daddy love
i wish my mum was here because she'd know what to do
she would have had the good cups and saucers out
yesterday i forgot to brush my teeth even though i had unpacked the toothpaste
today i did a load of towels
i just did the grocery delivery order 3 days early so we could have some snacky things for Gary
Gary rang to tell his sister and brothers after he had heard but we havn't heard from anyone today
maybe he should call his ex wife ? (they have no ill feeling towards each other but we only see them at Christmas or the grandkids birthdays)
i guess ill just wait to see what tomorrow brings
its a long weekend here
Gary's daughter finally succumbed to breast cancer yesterday
she had beaten it once before and had been given the 5 year all clear
but it came back in her spine, then her liver
she was doing ok
she was on her 5th and final public health system funded round of chemo, it had spread to her lungs
she had been doing so well, keeping it at bay, working, being a mum, being worried about her dad
she came to visit with her brother for Gary's birthday in August
she sent us this big meat pack a few weeks back worring how we were doing
we sent her flowers for her birthday at the end of September, at that stage her prognosis wasn't great, weeks or months if we were lucky but she was optimistic as once before the cancer had disapaired from her lungs
she gave up work and work gifted her her company car
Dylon took unpaid leave from work
then last week she sounded breathless on the phone
she went to hospital for a few days but they didn't have oxygen for her to take home which we all think was total BS and they must just be stock piling it for covid
then on Monday she went into the hospice, just to get her breathing right (they had plenty of oxygen for her to take a unit home)
we saw her on tuesday as we were in Wellington for Gary's eye appointment at Wgtn hospital so we were staying right accross the road and by some miricle 600m from the hospice
She looked so tired, her eyes were very sunken in kind of like darling Tibby looked when we had to take him to the vet on the way to rainbow bridge
Mel was sitting up in a chair, falling asleep momentarily as she had slept baddly for days because of her breathing trouble
she hands were red and sore looking
but she was talking and making conversation sure she would go home on friday
Wednesday we had Gary's apoinment and Mel's hubbie Dylon spent the day with her and brought the kids in (14 & 10)
We knew she'd be tired so we stayed away
Thursday we were on our way home and called in to see her as we left town
they wern't going to let us in because she wasn't up to visitors
Gary had to say this might be the last time he sees his daugter
we were quick, we exchanged i loves yous, her hands were so cold
we knew things were now very bad
as we were driving away Gary's son rang to say to get in their quick as she wasn't expected to last out the day
Gary explained we had just left her so we knew
it was dreadful, he was talking on the phone and driving and crying
As we drove into Porirua 20min latter he started crying at the thought of driving away from here
we got home and waited
(Her brother) Aaron rang latter that night to say Kaleb and little Kiera had been in and she had purked up at seeing them
they were all staying the night with her in the hospice accommodation
we sat at home and waited
i texted work to say i had better stay home on friday
the next morning we had toast for breakfast and waited
Aaron rang just before lunch to say she was gone
Poor Gary
and also her poor Hubbie, her kids, her own mum
i dont know what to do to help Gary, he's ok most of the time
i make cups of tea and serve food
yesterday after his nana nap he woke up crying
today i feel alot more tearful, like its really sinking in she's gone
she was certainly at least as close to me as my sister (but a lot more freindly)
there is no one to visit us here, just the two of us and Borris and Fluffa Duffa who are giving their daddy love
i wish my mum was here because she'd know what to do
she would have had the good cups and saucers out
yesterday i forgot to brush my teeth even though i had unpacked the toothpaste
today i did a load of towels
i just did the grocery delivery order 3 days early so we could have some snacky things for Gary
Gary rang to tell his sister and brothers after he had heard but we havn't heard from anyone today
maybe he should call his ex wife ? (they have no ill feeling towards each other but we only see them at Christmas or the grandkids birthdays)
i guess ill just wait to see what tomorrow brings
its a long weekend here
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