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Ideal_Rock
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Date: 4/1/2010 12:38:34 AM
Author: iota15
DO tell her because:
1. You're her friend (or is she an ex-friend? you wrote 'ex-bff'); That's why you respect her wishes
2. She's a big girl and can decide for herself what to do; She already has decided not to take his phone calls
3. You won't have to hold an unecessary secret from her; It's no secret he is trying to contact her. She is getting his messages.
4. Assuming you have one, your friendship won't blow up, if and likely when, she finds out you spoke to him for half an hour from another source; and He's probably calling all her friends and family and trying to get one of them to open up communication lines for him.
5. Holding it from her shows you don't believe she has the strength to stay away, and/or hold any respect for her as individual to resist such obvious manipulative attempts by him (even if either propositions are true, I would still be offended). She's had the strength to leave him. She's had the strength to refuse his calls. There is no new information that you are withholding. She will eventually be in touch with him as they have a divorce to work through.