Cachette
Brilliant_Rock
- Joined
- Dec 6, 2006
- Messages
- 1,630
During the Holidays, a few of my friends received jewellery/diamond gifts from their loved ones and were very excited to recount to me the circumstances surrounding the “receiving” part. All stories were romantic in nature.
I talked to my husband about every story, to share, but also to see his reaction because I wanted to learn something. What I learned was that 1. I believe that because of my increasing knowledge and interest in diamonds, he will never again buy me anything without my “analysis” of the product for fear that what he presented me with was sub par to what my expectations were (he used to buy me things - last time was over 3 years ago) and 2. That I will never again be “romantically surprised” with a jewellery gift from him ever again.
Now, it seems that I have overdone it with regards to sharing my great (great) passion for diamonds and diamond education with him. He is always very interested in my countless ramblings about this topic and never discourages me from pursuing my interests but I know that he will never again walk into our local B & M and look for something special, for me; something that he thinks I would look beautiful wearing and treasure regardless of its quality; something he feels is beautiful and would be especially beautiful for me.
I’m torn apart by this. I’m a hopeless romantic (what diamond lover isn’t?) and I imagine scenarios in which he surprises me with a diamond gift but I think I’ve ruined it by talking to him at length about quality, cuts, grading, certificates etc.
I’ve discussed with him the various vendors talked about here and even put links to these online stores in my favourites on our home computer (hint hint) but I seriously doubt that he will ever contact them… it’s just not his thing and I honestly think he would be afraid to, again, completely my fault, for fear that I would not be pleased.
So, how do I bring romance back in my life when all I’ve done for the past year is persecute B & M`s diamond quality? It wasn’t my intention as I think that someone can find beautiful items in these stores, beautiful enough to give to the love of their lives…
There are so many things that I want (diamond wise) and I don`t want to be the one always buying them for myself (like my ACA studs). Not much romance in that is there??
Short of starting over with someone else (
Thanks.
Cachette