Curious about how you guys would react in my situation. I have been living with my bf for about two years, and he kind of "unofficially" proposed to me just as long ago. We have a great relationship, he is my best friend and for the most part a sensitive guy, but still harbors the clueless gene and has stepped on my feelings more than once (remember my talking to the ex girlfriend behind my back thread??? He cut off all contact with her, btw). Once, last September, he told me he didn''t think getting married was a good idea anymore. I told him if that was the case, then he should move out and we need to take a break from the relationship. He changed his tune and told me that wasn''t what he wanted, that he loved me and that he would propose to me within a year (from Sept 1 2005).
So he finally starting looking at rings a couple of months ago and I was SURE that he would propose on our upcoming trip to Napa valley at the end of this month (perfect place, right?) Well come to find out, he hasn''t even ordered a ring, didn''t know that it would take like a month to make, and was just planning on giving it to me when he got it. No romantic Napa valley proposal, no fanfare, nothing.
To make matters worse, two days ago I found out that my younger sister''s (the one I don''t get along with) bf of one year proposed to her over a romantic dinner, and I was crushed because he did it spontaneously and I feel like I have had to nag the hell out of my boyfriend to even look at a ring. To make matters EVEN worse, my boyfriend called my mother and told her that he was going to propose to me and wanted to know what my sister''s ring looked like (I did NOT want to know, and I told him that the reason I did NOT want to know was because if it hers was bigger, I might be a little resentful and that isn''t right, besides I never see her anyways) so he wouldn''t duplicate it. So now my parents are expecting me to be engaged soon. So, he ordered me a ring with a 1 ct. center stone, called me and told me what he ordered, and then told me IMMEDIATELY after that my sister had a large 2 ct. ring, but that he thinks mine is better quality (even though he has been kind of cheaply nickel and diming me on the ring issue the whole way, and he keeps telling me to pick out rings that are cheaper). WHO THE HELL TELLS THEIR GIRLFRIEND THAT THEY ORDERED HER A RING AND RIGHT AFTER THAT SAYS HER SISTER GOT ONE THAT IS BIGGER?????
I am pissed, hurt, and resentful because he ruined my surprise, put no thought into the process of proposing, and rubbed salt in the wouds by telling me that someone else''s was bigger (not to mention, more well thought out and executed). I told him to cancel the ring- that this process has become so stressful and ugly for me that I don''t want to do it until I can get a grip and be happy about the whole thing.
What would yo do??????
So he finally starting looking at rings a couple of months ago and I was SURE that he would propose on our upcoming trip to Napa valley at the end of this month (perfect place, right?) Well come to find out, he hasn''t even ordered a ring, didn''t know that it would take like a month to make, and was just planning on giving it to me when he got it. No romantic Napa valley proposal, no fanfare, nothing.
To make matters worse, two days ago I found out that my younger sister''s (the one I don''t get along with) bf of one year proposed to her over a romantic dinner, and I was crushed because he did it spontaneously and I feel like I have had to nag the hell out of my boyfriend to even look at a ring. To make matters EVEN worse, my boyfriend called my mother and told her that he was going to propose to me and wanted to know what my sister''s ring looked like (I did NOT want to know, and I told him that the reason I did NOT want to know was because if it hers was bigger, I might be a little resentful and that isn''t right, besides I never see her anyways) so he wouldn''t duplicate it. So now my parents are expecting me to be engaged soon. So, he ordered me a ring with a 1 ct. center stone, called me and told me what he ordered, and then told me IMMEDIATELY after that my sister had a large 2 ct. ring, but that he thinks mine is better quality (even though he has been kind of cheaply nickel and diming me on the ring issue the whole way, and he keeps telling me to pick out rings that are cheaper). WHO THE HELL TELLS THEIR GIRLFRIEND THAT THEY ORDERED HER A RING AND RIGHT AFTER THAT SAYS HER SISTER GOT ONE THAT IS BIGGER?????
I am pissed, hurt, and resentful because he ruined my surprise, put no thought into the process of proposing, and rubbed salt in the wouds by telling me that someone else''s was bigger (not to mention, more well thought out and executed). I told him to cancel the ring- that this process has become so stressful and ugly for me that I don''t want to do it until I can get a grip and be happy about the whole thing.
What would yo do??????