Independent Gal
Ideal_Rock
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I''ve mentioned before my Cousin E, who is my only relative in this part of the world. She is my grammy''s first cousin, who is 87 years old. I''ve also mentioned that she is a very wealthy woman (she''s the one who got me addicted to diamonds by taking me to Graff). Anyway, we met for lunch today and she was telling me about a dilemma that''s on her mind. I thought I''d run it by you ladies since I wasn''t able to help her.
So, a while back, Cousin E had her knees replaced, and she hired a nurse / companion lady to help her out until she was well again. She told me that they have stayed in touch, although she does not consider this woman - let''s call her Mary - a friend... it''s more that they''re friendLY. Apparently, Mary got in financial trouble and Cousin E gave her a loan, which she paid back over a period of a couple of years. She got in trouble again and E gave her more money. This time not as a loan. Then she was asked for more. Then she got very uncomfortable about it and when she gave Mary the money said ''This is the last time.''
So, now, Mary is apparently seeking more money. She has had surgery and can''t work at the moment, and I''m assuming she''s also older. Cousin E is very upset by this and feels that she is being used. At the same time, she feels she can''t just turn this woman away. It''s not as though E can''t afford to help, without putting herself to any hardship. E is obviously deeply bothered by this, but I didn''t know what to tell her, since I think if I were in her shoes, I would also be quite uncomfortable. It''s one thing to give freely, it''s another to feel you''re being milked.
Any ideas or suggestions? What would you do?
So, a while back, Cousin E had her knees replaced, and she hired a nurse / companion lady to help her out until she was well again. She told me that they have stayed in touch, although she does not consider this woman - let''s call her Mary - a friend... it''s more that they''re friendLY. Apparently, Mary got in financial trouble and Cousin E gave her a loan, which she paid back over a period of a couple of years. She got in trouble again and E gave her more money. This time not as a loan. Then she was asked for more. Then she got very uncomfortable about it and when she gave Mary the money said ''This is the last time.''
So, now, Mary is apparently seeking more money. She has had surgery and can''t work at the moment, and I''m assuming she''s also older. Cousin E is very upset by this and feels that she is being used. At the same time, she feels she can''t just turn this woman away. It''s not as though E can''t afford to help, without putting herself to any hardship. E is obviously deeply bothered by this, but I didn''t know what to tell her, since I think if I were in her shoes, I would also be quite uncomfortable. It''s one thing to give freely, it''s another to feel you''re being milked.
Any ideas or suggestions? What would you do?