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Ideal_Rock
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Okay ladies, here is another Christmas gift question for you...
My SIL has two children from her previous marriage, a daughter "K" who is my age, 25...and a son "A" who is 20.
Since we do family wide gift exchanges, I''ve always bought gifts on the small side but still thoughtful and in line with their personal interests...last year I bought K a season of Full House on DVD, and A a tee shirt and thermal from Macy''s.
This year would be no different, expect that my K moved in with her boyfriend, J. Last year we did not buy for her boyfriend, J even though K & J were together, and J had attended our wedding the previous summer. It did cross my mind to include J on our Christmas list, however, these decisions I leave up to my husband because this is his brothers wifes'' children and I am not particularly close to them and could honestly go either way. My husband made the decision that we should not buy for J so that we didn''t set an uncomfortable precident for J or K. However as it turns out, K did include J''s name on the gift K gave to my husband and I.
So, that brings us to this Christmas.
K & J have moved in together this past summer. So, obviously we will be including J on our list this year...and I have decided since they are stocking their first home together, I would treat them to a lovely handcarved wooden popcorn bowl with their names engaved on it. Normally I wouldn''t do *this much*...but this is their first Christmas in their first home and that is an extra special time for a couple.
However, A (my SIL son''s) is involved with a girl, too. They have been together since the summer of 2007 and it is moderately serious...well, as serious as two college students can be about each other...he''s very sweet on this girl, apparently.
I want to know if I should include A''s girlfriend on our outgoing Christmas list?
On the con side, I feel like my DH and I set the tone by not buying gifts for casual boyfriends and girlfriends that weren''t cohabitating in the past..but now that we are planning to include J, I feel some responsibility to include A''s girlfriend as well. But the problem is, since they don''t live together or even go to the same college--I can''t give them a couples gift...so this would mean buying her a seperate gift, and I hardly know this girl--I don''t think I''ve ever said anything more than "Hi" to her in the past..
On the pro side, no one will fell excluded or left out and I certainly won''t be hurting anyone...
What to do? What would you do???
My SIL has two children from her previous marriage, a daughter "K" who is my age, 25...and a son "A" who is 20.
Since we do family wide gift exchanges, I''ve always bought gifts on the small side but still thoughtful and in line with their personal interests...last year I bought K a season of Full House on DVD, and A a tee shirt and thermal from Macy''s.
This year would be no different, expect that my K moved in with her boyfriend, J. Last year we did not buy for her boyfriend, J even though K & J were together, and J had attended our wedding the previous summer. It did cross my mind to include J on our Christmas list, however, these decisions I leave up to my husband because this is his brothers wifes'' children and I am not particularly close to them and could honestly go either way. My husband made the decision that we should not buy for J so that we didn''t set an uncomfortable precident for J or K. However as it turns out, K did include J''s name on the gift K gave to my husband and I.
So, that brings us to this Christmas.
K & J have moved in together this past summer. So, obviously we will be including J on our list this year...and I have decided since they are stocking their first home together, I would treat them to a lovely handcarved wooden popcorn bowl with their names engaved on it. Normally I wouldn''t do *this much*...but this is their first Christmas in their first home and that is an extra special time for a couple.
However, A (my SIL son''s) is involved with a girl, too. They have been together since the summer of 2007 and it is moderately serious...well, as serious as two college students can be about each other...he''s very sweet on this girl, apparently.
I want to know if I should include A''s girlfriend on our outgoing Christmas list?
On the con side, I feel like my DH and I set the tone by not buying gifts for casual boyfriends and girlfriends that weren''t cohabitating in the past..but now that we are planning to include J, I feel some responsibility to include A''s girlfriend as well. But the problem is, since they don''t live together or even go to the same college--I can''t give them a couples gift...so this would mean buying her a seperate gift, and I hardly know this girl--I don''t think I''ve ever said anything more than "Hi" to her in the past..
On the pro side, no one will fell excluded or left out and I certainly won''t be hurting anyone...
What to do? What would you do???