dec2410
Shiny_Rock
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- Sep 5, 2007
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hello ladies - i wanted to pose a question. how do you guys feel about breaks? have you guys been in a relationship where you felt like you needed a break or your SO needed one? if so, what was the outcome? how long was it? were you guys in contact with one another? how did you cope?
so the story behind all these questions is that my bf and i are kind of on a break but not...? after talking in circles for a month about needs and how we weren''t fulfilling each other''s, we finally admitted (or he finally admitted) that he has a lot of growing to do. he has a lot of baggage from previous relationships (almost all his previous gf''s cheated on him) and issues with betrayal and insecurity and we both feel that he needs to work on himself right now. i have a lot of issues too, but i''ve been working on mine, slowly. right now, we''re not really focusing on our relationship cuz we need to be focusing on ourselves . we''re giving each other space, but are still in light contact. as much as i think it would be best to not be in contact at all, we''re both super active in our church and there is no way to not see him there.
i don''t know what will happen between us, but personal growth is so important and i want to give him the space and opportunity to grow. so thus my question about "breaks. i just want some perspective....
thanks ladies!
so the story behind all these questions is that my bf and i are kind of on a break but not...? after talking in circles for a month about needs and how we weren''t fulfilling each other''s, we finally admitted (or he finally admitted) that he has a lot of growing to do. he has a lot of baggage from previous relationships (almost all his previous gf''s cheated on him) and issues with betrayal and insecurity and we both feel that he needs to work on himself right now. i have a lot of issues too, but i''ve been working on mine, slowly. right now, we''re not really focusing on our relationship cuz we need to be focusing on ourselves . we''re giving each other space, but are still in light contact. as much as i think it would be best to not be in contact at all, we''re both super active in our church and there is no way to not see him there.
i don''t know what will happen between us, but personal growth is so important and i want to give him the space and opportunity to grow. so thus my question about "breaks. i just want some perspective....
thanks ladies!