allycat0303
Ideal_Rock
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Hey everyone,
I’m sorry for the delay in the update. As I mentioned before, there were things on the other thread that really hurt me, and I didn’t feel comfortable talking about all this before. I really want all of you gals to know that I’m very grateful to all of you that have supported me throughout the last 5 years. I don’t believe that you get anywhere in life without people (sometimes virtual) that hold you up when you’re down. I especially want to tell Icekid, Freke, Kaliegh, and kama_s that they are wonderful, beautiful ladies.
So Initially we had decided to have a family reunion. We dropped all of the wedding planning and concentrated on our relationship. We were in counselling nearly everyday and it was physically (and mentally) exhausting. It didn’t really change anything, but everything. It’s impossible for me to put into words how much insight it gave us, so I’m going to leave it at that. There’s still a lot of work to be done individually, but it’s a work in progress.
We decided on WEDNESDAY the 24th to get married. Mainly because we really love each other. That might seem like a silly statement, but it really came down to that. Despite everything we’ve been through, I just didn’t see myself without him, and he didn’t see himself without me. Both of us knew we were never going to walk away from the relationship, and we felt that we could handle whatever came our way, as a couple. We’ve survived 13 years knowing that relationships take work, and we felt we had the committement to see this through.
I had left most of the wedding planning, to the last minute (even before we decided to drop it) so you can imagine trying to get 2 weeks worth of stuff done in 3 days before the wedding! I had even cancelled some vendors to recoup loses (Florist, DJ, Lions). It was actually my sister, my cousin, and my 2 best friends that planned it ALL for us. I couldn’t handle the stress of it, and sometimes, you have to just ask for help. That’s something I’ve recently learnt. I didn’t do ANYTHING just went to the dress fitting and counseling. They ran everywhere for us, got a DJ, a florist got asian hors d''oeuvres. Wrapped favors, made place cards. In many ways, I could see why someone would say *it wasn’t well organized* because we did’t have time to have things done professionally, but my friends and family put a lot of love into it.The flowers arrived late (during the cocktail hour) because they weren’t done!!! I have pictures of the empty arrangements!
The ONLY dress fitting was on Thursday 25th (2 days before the wedding) My sister bartered away MEDICAL services so the seamstress would do it. Family doctors are a HOT commodity in Montreal (you can’t even GET ON a waiting list) and my sister has 7 new patients…the seamstress’s family! We waited 4 hours downstairs while she did it. And there were 3 false tries. The dress was WAY too tight. (They could NOT zip it up, not even CLOSE). I have pictures of that too. And I looked STRESSED.
FMIL was a total angel. Not a word. She threw us this wonderful Viet theme reheresal lunch/dinner on Thursday night. We had a rehersal dinner in FMIL’s BACKYARD, because the church was obviously unavailable 3 days before the wedding.
So with the exception of my mother (who totally lost it) everything was perfect. I really wouldn’t have changed anything about that day. I’m tracking down pictures (i.e begging on facebook) so that I don’t bore you all with one or 2 wedding pictures and then keep adding. Here’s the really important stuff (for PS’ers anyways.)