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AprilBaby|1383945119|3552983 said:I would have laughed and said " did you really just ask that?" And then change the topic.
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AprilBaby|1383945119|3552983 said:I would have laughed and said " did you really just ask that?" And then change the topic.
kenny|1383945537|3552994 said:AprilBaby|1383945119|3552983 said:I would have laughed and said " did you really just ask that?" And then change the topic.
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kenny|1383945537|3552994 said:AprilBaby|1383945119|3552983 said:I would have laughed and said " did you really just ask that?" And then change the topic.
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Polished|1383947659|3553016 said:I'd shock and rock her little world with your gorgeous jewelery. Christians and non-christians can get caught up in disapproval and holding others to account can become a convenient way of not dealing with your own stuff. I don't know whether by "taste" Lara meant this woman doesn't get jewelery. It sounds like she only focuses on the cost of the items with no actual appreciation of their beauty or artistic merit. Another person might have a more sophisticated approach and think along the lines of, while never wanting to part with a lot of money for a piece of jewelery, they could appreciate that they had the opportunity of encountering such a stone or love the way a piece looks on the person wearing it.
AprilBaby|1383945119|3552983 said:I would have laughed and said " did you really just ask that?" And then change the topic.
TooPatient|1383949460|3553034 said:AprilBaby|1383945119|3552983 said:I would have laughed and said " did you really just ask that?" And then change the topic.
This.
You could also do something like I've been doing with "A" -- "That is a rather rude thing to ask." then let her sit uncomfortably and change the subject.
(FWIW, I explained exactly why it was rude to ask the first couple of times so now just remind her when something is really rude. -- I don't think you should have to explain that to your friend though!)
I understand feeling uncomfortable around people with substantially more or less jewelry than you. It feels like you're really standing out when all you want to be is comfortable with those you're with. I have situations where I have the largest diamond in the room (my college classes) and others where it is the smallest (our dinner group). It can be difficult, but I do try to enjoy wearing what I have regardless of situation (sapphires & diamonds with a tank top and yoga pants...). Oh.... and I try not to actually drool on some of the rings/bracelet/pendants that I see in the other setting!
Anyway...
She was out of line and you shouldn't feel uncomfortable just because someone else was rude.
justginger|1383951856|3553053 said:TooPatient|1383949460|3553034 said:AprilBaby|1383945119|3552983 said:I would have laughed and said " did you really just ask that?" And then change the topic.
This.
You could also do something like I've been doing with "A" -- "That is a rather rude thing to ask." then let her sit uncomfortably and change the subject.
(FWIW, I explained exactly why it was rude to ask the first couple of times so now just remind her when something is really rude. -- I don't think you should have to explain that to your friend though!)
I understand feeling uncomfortable around people with substantially more or less jewelry than you. It feels like you're really standing out when all you want to be is comfortable with those you're with. I have situations where I have the largest diamond in the room (my college classes) and others where it is the smallest (our dinner group). It can be difficult, but I do try to enjoy wearing what I have regardless of situation (sapphires & diamonds with a tank top and yoga pants...). Oh.... and I try not to actually drool on some of the rings/bracelet/pendants that I see in the other setting!
Anyway...
She was out of line and you shouldn't feel uncomfortable just because someone else was rude.
I've had a few comments regarding Poppy from close friends that I field with no issues. I tell them that I saved my overtime for 2 years for my newest ring, it's a 30th birthday present to myself, and it brings me a lot of joy -- and I purchased it in the States, which always saves money. They all moved on, and regularly ask me about any future purchases out of genuine curiosity, not gossiping.
However, one girl at uni I had only just met flat out said (in front of a small group of people), "Oh God, how much did you pay for THAT?! All I could do was laugh -- but I forced out, "Really? That's a bit rude, isn't it? Would you like to see my payslips while you're at it?" She stammered that she was just curious because she works at a jeweller (one of the worst maul chains you can imagine). Hopefully, at 19 years old, the situation wasn't terribly mortifying for her, but embarrassing enough that it taught her a lesson.
iLander|1383918791|3552693 said:Whatever happened to "Mind your own business"?
Just tell her that.
She sounds like a jealous little twit.
Thanks Greg. My 1.6 ct F e-ring would make a very elegant pinky!!gregchang35|1383954792|3553079 said:Hi Lara,
You have been given some amazing advice on deflection! If u so choose to leave a few pieces behind and not wear them, I am more than happy to look after them for you.
LaraOnline|1383976402|3553250 said:Cheers everyone, i am feeling officially 'cheered up'.
And guess what I'm wearing EXAcTLY what I wore jewellery wise yesterday, and I feel just fine!
Hope this photos aren't too big I'm doing it on my phone.
Dandi Andi you better watch your bracelet I have my eye on it lol.
MissGotRocks|1384008816|3553365 said:Good for you! Be true to yourself and don't let anyone guilt you out of your own pleasures. As long as she's not paying for it, she shouldn't say a word! Friends that make you feel bad aren't really good for you and not really friends either - sometimes we have to rethink our relationships - both in terms of what we put into them and what we get out of them. Caustic, sniping people just don't cut it for me - life is simply too short!
DandiAndi|1383971709|3553220 said:Yep, sounds like plain old envy to me. Please please don't let it affect how you wear your beautiful collection!! If it helps, I'm deathly jealous of your gorgeous diamonds too
You're a huge success - a wonderful mum with a beautiful, healthy family... so WHO GIVES a rat's **** how you spend your play money?! Geez. Some people irk me no end. Grrr.
Now I feel like ducking down to the shops in my trackies, shabby old moccasins and every bit of diamond jewellery I have, just because I can
Big big hugs to you, Lara my dear. We all love ya!
Smith1942|1384014782|3553403 said:Lara, your jewellery is absolutely stunning! Tell me about that bracelet - do you have a thread on it? And your diamond, ohhhh A thread on that?
So basically, having and wearing this jewellery is part of who you are. Sometimes, other people just can't cope with who we are. And when that happens, time to get the hell out of Dodge! (By which I mean, time to not bother with the friendship anymore.)
Your friend clearly can't cope with the fact that you are a bejewelled person. So be it. Let her hang around with people dressed in sacks if she prefers.
You, dahling, are absolutely fabulous! Work it, work it!
Madam Bijoux|1383963233|3553143 said:Give her a great big smile and say: "Eat your heart out."