Snow_Miser
Shiny_Rock
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- Jun 14, 2010
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I was on the phone with my dear dad last night. He had just arrived back home, and had been on one of the roughest flights he can remember, and he flies every week. In his panic during the flight, he says he kept thinking, I am never going to see J and C get married, I'm not going to be there (aw....).
He went on to tell me how hard it has been on my family that my boyfriend and I have not gotten married yet, especially on my 81 year old grandfather who I absolutely adore. My SO and I are 24 and 25 and have been together for three years. We are not trying to rush things, although I know he is saving money for a ring and we will probably buy a ring in the next six months or so.
I guess I just don't understand how our actions of not getting married are so hard on them. I know they don't love that we are living together while not being married, but at the same time we are still relatively young and don't feel the need to rush into a marriage. We are enjoying whe we are in life and where we are in our relationship. We are also both very focused on our jobs and continuing our education, which takes up a lot of our time.
I just hate that I/we are causing my family to hurt, as they are so important to me. Can anyone shed any light as to why they are so hurt by this? My dad couldn't do a good job of verbalizing their feelings.
He went on to tell me how hard it has been on my family that my boyfriend and I have not gotten married yet, especially on my 81 year old grandfather who I absolutely adore. My SO and I are 24 and 25 and have been together for three years. We are not trying to rush things, although I know he is saving money for a ring and we will probably buy a ring in the next six months or so.
I guess I just don't understand how our actions of not getting married are so hard on them. I know they don't love that we are living together while not being married, but at the same time we are still relatively young and don't feel the need to rush into a marriage. We are enjoying whe we are in life and where we are in our relationship. We are also both very focused on our jobs and continuing our education, which takes up a lot of our time.
I just hate that I/we are causing my family to hurt, as they are so important to me. Can anyone shed any light as to why they are so hurt by this? My dad couldn't do a good job of verbalizing their feelings.