rockzilla
Brilliant_Rock
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So, I''ll admit it up front. I''m a bit of a control freak. When it came to the wedding, I kept a lot of the decisions and managment stuff myself.
One thing I had my now-husband handle was the videographer. He was in charge of making sure the payments were in on time, communicating, picking the songs for the video, etc. We weren''t even planning to get a video at first, but a number of our family members are on the east coast and couldn''t make it out for the wedding, so we got this to be able to show them after the fact.
When we had our initial consult, we asked to have the video by the end of October (wedding was in August). We figured this would give us a little buffer if the video was say, a week or two late. The videographer agreed to this (at first he was a little hesitant, but then he said he wanted to help us) and even put the delivery date in the contract.
The video didn''t arrive for Thanksgiving. However, my husband was a little late in getting him the music selections, so we told him that it would be OK, as long as we got it for Christmas (all the family is rarely around together at times other than these two holidays). Somewhere between Thanksgiving and Christmas, he stopped responding to communication.
What bugs me (beyond the obvious that this videographer is a complete flake) is that my husband wasn''t updating me to all this. I had to constantly ask him for updates on what was going on...it wasn''t until I asked him, a few days before Christmas, that it was apparent we wouldn''t be showing our family the video (which we had promised them at Thanksgiving). I felt like, if I hadn''t asked him, he would have never told me. And, since he wasn''t updating me, I had no idea what was going on with it throughout this process.
It has been so frustrating...especially since every time I offer to call the guy, exert some additional pressure, etc, my husband gets defensive and says "I''m handling it." My reaction is, well, maybe you need some backup? But he is insistant. Now, its almost feburary, no video, and we haven''t heard from the guy in over a month. I mean, how much can it hurt to have me call him?
The other thing I explained to him is that, with him taking on this responsibility, 50% of the job is managing the videographer, and 50% is "managing" me - if he doesn''t communicate with me, I assume nothing is happening and get frustrated. I am not blaming him for the videographer''s screw-up, but the way he has handled it so far hasnt made things any better. And we STILL don''t have that video!
One thing I had my now-husband handle was the videographer. He was in charge of making sure the payments were in on time, communicating, picking the songs for the video, etc. We weren''t even planning to get a video at first, but a number of our family members are on the east coast and couldn''t make it out for the wedding, so we got this to be able to show them after the fact.
When we had our initial consult, we asked to have the video by the end of October (wedding was in August). We figured this would give us a little buffer if the video was say, a week or two late. The videographer agreed to this (at first he was a little hesitant, but then he said he wanted to help us) and even put the delivery date in the contract.
The video didn''t arrive for Thanksgiving. However, my husband was a little late in getting him the music selections, so we told him that it would be OK, as long as we got it for Christmas (all the family is rarely around together at times other than these two holidays). Somewhere between Thanksgiving and Christmas, he stopped responding to communication.
What bugs me (beyond the obvious that this videographer is a complete flake) is that my husband wasn''t updating me to all this. I had to constantly ask him for updates on what was going on...it wasn''t until I asked him, a few days before Christmas, that it was apparent we wouldn''t be showing our family the video (which we had promised them at Thanksgiving). I felt like, if I hadn''t asked him, he would have never told me. And, since he wasn''t updating me, I had no idea what was going on with it throughout this process.
It has been so frustrating...especially since every time I offer to call the guy, exert some additional pressure, etc, my husband gets defensive and says "I''m handling it." My reaction is, well, maybe you need some backup? But he is insistant. Now, its almost feburary, no video, and we haven''t heard from the guy in over a month. I mean, how much can it hurt to have me call him?
The other thing I explained to him is that, with him taking on this responsibility, 50% of the job is managing the videographer, and 50% is "managing" me - if he doesn''t communicate with me, I assume nothing is happening and get frustrated. I am not blaming him for the videographer''s screw-up, but the way he has handled it so far hasnt made things any better. And we STILL don''t have that video!