TravelingGal
Super_Ideal_Rock
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Date: 5/7/2009 8:13:24 AM
Author: Pandora II
to tackle problems.
And yet despite the ''hands off'' techniques, kids in London schools seem to regularly stab each other, take guns to school and are generally unpleasant. In the whole time I have been pregnant I have ALWAYS been given a seat on the bus or tube except once - the bus was full of school children and despite being 36 weeks and so obviously pregnant, not one of them offered me a seat. The only other time I was on the bus when it was full of school children, some tiny little chinese boy gave me his seat - his classmates then proceeded to jeer at him for his behaviour!
I also agree that guilt is a big factor in parenting. I worry about this myself. I do remember thinking it was a bummer when I was a kid that other kids had atari and I didn''t. I didn''t know why my mom wouldn''t allow me to have a phone in my room. It just wasn''t in fair in my book. But I knew I lived in their house and I live by their rules. The lack of instant gratification has done me a world of good.
However, I do worry that if my kid is the only one that doesn''t have x and y, she will be teased and ostracized, which is tough on the psyche. Kids these days seem a lot meaner. No one knew I didn''t have a phone in my room and certainly no one really cared that I didn''t have an atari system. No one had cell phones in those days and I don''t remember a lot of kids with designer clothes.
Unfortunately, I think Amelia is going to be teased for having the old fashioned mom, especially since I will be an older parent compared to her classmates'' parents.