midnightshakesthememory
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Sep 13, 2006
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Hello everyone. I have been a long time lurker, but this is my first post. My problem is this: I love love love that my now-husband really wanted to pick out my engagement ring on his own. He actually did a fantastic job with the stone and the setting is very...unique. Initially I thought it would grow on me, but now I find myself obsessing about getting it reset. I know even the mention of this would totally break his heart since he insisted on "doing this the old-fashioned way" and not letting me be involved in any step of the process. I think he already knows that I''m not head-over-heels about the setting because I did express some of my frustration in not being able to get the wedding band I always wanted. I only found one band that would actually sit up against the engagement ring, and even at that I had to have some of the platinum filed down on the engagment ring to even have a close to flush fit (which I prefer). The wedding band I ended up with will go nicely with pretty much any engagement setting, so that would not be a problem if I did go with a reset. So....to all you upgraders and reseters out there, how did you bring up this subject without totally breaking your beloved''s heart? We''ve been married for 9 months, so asking for a 5 year anniversary reset isn''t really going to work for me. Like I said, I''m obsessing about all the other setting I would prefer. The other wrinkle in this matter is that my mother-in-law (who loves me to death) helped my husband pick out the stone and setting. She works at a jewelry store and is very VERY against upgrading in general. She even mentioned to me that she hopes I am happy with this ring for the rest of my life. I understand that my husband and his mother both are sentimental romantics, which I think is great....but it is my finger! Help, please! Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated!