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Ideal_Rock
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- Mar 18, 2007
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Ok, so I''ve mentioned in a post or two that while I''m kind of an LIW, my bf and I are taking things sloooooooowly. We''re still in college and have very little real world experience. And I''ve always thought (from the vague discussions we had) that we were on the same page, timeline wise.
And then my mom started asking about engagement rings, and whether I''d want a say, etc. So suddenly, I got freaked out. What if my bf thought that''s the page I was on? My brain went into panic mode. So I decided to talk to him about it.
I can''t even explain how good a decision that was, lol. I asked him what he was thinking, and told him I wasn''t pushing, I just needed to reassure myself that our ideal timeframes matched without him hearing mine first (occasionally I find that if he knows what I want, he''ll bend what he wants to match it).
So what he said (and I was thinking) was that he''d need at least a year after graduation to get settled and figure out all of his stuff and where he''s going before we can decide where we''re going. Which is just about word for word what I would have told him and what I wanted to hear.
And since all of my friends would get freaked out if they heard us talking like this, I came here, to a board full of people who know what it''s like to have a very happy timeline conversation. Heck, even just talking to people who have had a timeline conversation is nice.
And then my mom started asking about engagement rings, and whether I''d want a say, etc. So suddenly, I got freaked out. What if my bf thought that''s the page I was on? My brain went into panic mode. So I decided to talk to him about it.
I can''t even explain how good a decision that was, lol. I asked him what he was thinking, and told him I wasn''t pushing, I just needed to reassure myself that our ideal timeframes matched without him hearing mine first (occasionally I find that if he knows what I want, he''ll bend what he wants to match it).
So what he said (and I was thinking) was that he''d need at least a year after graduation to get settled and figure out all of his stuff and where he''s going before we can decide where we''re going. Which is just about word for word what I would have told him and what I wanted to hear.
And since all of my friends would get freaked out if they heard us talking like this, I came here, to a board full of people who know what it''s like to have a very happy timeline conversation. Heck, even just talking to people who have had a timeline conversation is nice.