PhillyMcGee
Rough_Rock
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- Jun 12, 2012
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Hi Ladies!
I'm just wondering how those who live together/share finances with their Partners prior to proposals not notice or question where money is going (if it's for a ring) or hasn't that been an issue for anyone? I'm not really sure if it is an issue for me or not, but not sure if I should ignore any strange financial activity hoping its all for a ring? The problem is my BF is notoriously a terrible spender! He often spends money on unnecessary things and can't budget well...I do all 'our' financial stuff and he has his 'play' money left over, so it's never really a big deal if he spends it all, it just annoys me when that cash is meant to last him a week and he spends it in three days, so I am often saying to him 'where has that money gone?' I know I'm annoying but at least I'm practical!
Anyway, a few months ago he lent a pretty large amount of money ($4000) to a friend who had to go overseas at short notice as a family member of theirs was extremely sick. Not something we can really afford ourselves but anyway! Yesterday that friend had paid back half of it in cash, but this morning it wasn't in L's wallet so I asked where it was, he tells me he has left it at his mums for safekeeping.....I was like 'why the hell did you do that and not put it in the bank like a normal person?', then thought whilst I was driving to work perhaps it is a stash for an e-ring?! No idea if it is or not....but I realized this is something I will struggle with....do you turn a blind eye to your OH's spending/budget blowouts , in the hope its all for a ring?
I'm just wondering how those who live together/share finances with their Partners prior to proposals not notice or question where money is going (if it's for a ring) or hasn't that been an issue for anyone? I'm not really sure if it is an issue for me or not, but not sure if I should ignore any strange financial activity hoping its all for a ring? The problem is my BF is notoriously a terrible spender! He often spends money on unnecessary things and can't budget well...I do all 'our' financial stuff and he has his 'play' money left over, so it's never really a big deal if he spends it all, it just annoys me when that cash is meant to last him a week and he spends it in three days, so I am often saying to him 'where has that money gone?' I know I'm annoying but at least I'm practical!
Anyway, a few months ago he lent a pretty large amount of money ($4000) to a friend who had to go overseas at short notice as a family member of theirs was extremely sick. Not something we can really afford ourselves but anyway! Yesterday that friend had paid back half of it in cash, but this morning it wasn't in L's wallet so I asked where it was, he tells me he has left it at his mums for safekeeping.....I was like 'why the hell did you do that and not put it in the bank like a normal person?', then thought whilst I was driving to work perhaps it is a stash for an e-ring?! No idea if it is or not....but I realized this is something I will struggle with....do you turn a blind eye to your OH's spending/budget blowouts , in the hope its all for a ring?