This may be dangerous...

[chrono]

Do not worry about what others think of your ring. You don’t worry about what they think of your home, car, work and etc, correct? It was chosen with care and good intentions so wear it proudly.

Should you one day in the future find any “flaws”, it’s time for an upgrade.

Nah, I was just kidding.

 

[Liane]

Date: 12/15/2009 1:33:22 PM
Author: gingersnap

Biggest fear being here (here being the forum)? That I will learn things that will make me less appreciative of my e-ring. However, the design of the ring is *very* much my style (low profile, very unobtrusive in day to day life, fiance and I picked it out together, sentimental value...) so perhaps I will develop a blind eye to the flaws of the stone I think a blind eye in this matter is something I will need to aquire. Makes me nervous to post a picture of it here! Hah!

I won''t lie: this might happen. It did to me, for a while. I stepped away from the forums for a couple of months (at the time I was mostly a lurker so I doubt anyone else noticed anyway, not that they necessarily would now...), paid more attention to the rings that I actually saw in everyday life, and realized that, you know, mine was really nice.

And the thing about the Colored Stones subforum, which I think can get a little bit lost sometimes in a couple of the others, is that the posters here are very much appreciative of the little things that make stones unique and special. It''s easier to feel okay about liking stones that have some flaws. If you happen to like gems that have some gray in their color, or show interesting zoning, or have cool inclusions, that is 100% fine. Whereas if you like warmer-colored diamonds, people will generally say "oh that''s fine if it''s your thing" but there''ll be three dozen posts a day implicitly saying that tinted diamonds are baaaaddd and, at best, a compromise to save some money. In CS it''s much easier to just like what you like without having to swim against a constant stream of lock-step thinking about what makes a "good" stone.

So if ever you do start to feel that way about your e-ring, even a little bit, it''s okay and normal. And it will pass. Just reflect on how much it means to you and how special it is, and how beautiful that individual, unique gem really is.

 

[JustLikeYou]

Date: 12/17/2009 9:08:37 AM
Author: Liane

I won''t lie: this might happen. It did to me, for a while. I stepped away from the forums for a couple of months (at the time I was mostly a lurker so I doubt anyone else noticed anyway, not that they necessarily would now...), paid more attention to the rings that I actually saw in everyday life, and realized that, you know, mine was really nice.


And the thing about the Colored Stones subforum, which I think can get a little bit lost sometimes in a couple of the others, is that the posters here are very much appreciative of the little things that make stones unique and special. It''s easier to feel okay about liking stones that have some flaws. If you happen to like gems that have some gray in their color, or show interesting zoning, or have cool inclusions, that is 100% fine. Whereas if you like warmer-colored diamonds, people will generally say ''oh that''s fine if it''s your thing'' but there''ll be three dozen posts a day implicitly saying that tinted diamonds are baaaaddd and, at best, a compromise to save some money. In CS it''s much easier to just like what you like without having to swim against a constant stream of lock-step thinking about what makes a ''good'' stone.


So if ever you do start to feel that way about your e-ring, even a little bit, it''s okay and normal. And it will pass. Just reflect on how much it means to you and how special it is, and how beautiful that individual, unique gem really is.

How perfectly stated!

I have a few rings from family that I never wear, mostly because I''m just not much of a jewelry person (but LOVE admiring pretty colored stones) and realized more that the little imperfections or cool looking inclusions are sometimes what make a so-so stone really unique.

 

[gingersnap]

Date: 12/17/2009 8:46:04 AM
Author: Chrono
Do not worry about what others think of your ring. You don’t worry about what they think of your home, car, work and etc, correct? It was chosen with care and good intentions so wear it proudly.

Should you one day in the future find any “flaws”, it’s time for an upgrade.

Nah, I was just kidding.

It''s almost like uploading a picture of my car to a car enthusiast forum. I like my car just fine, but it doesn''t exactly belong on an enthusiast forum.

I posted a picture of my ring anyway, because unlike cars, gems are all about the visual. And I''m in love with the setting (and yes, i love my stone too

) and I''m sure someone else might like to see the setting as well as I haven''t seen anything like it here yet. I''ll still be nervous about it, but as you may have seen I let myself be nervous about a number of things.

As for upgrades... I like the idea of "additions" rather than... replacements

 

[gingersnap]

Date: 12/17/2009 9:08:37 AM
Author: Liane

Date: 12/15/2009 1:33:22 PM
Author: gingersnap

Biggest fear being here (here being the forum)? That I will learn things that will make me less appreciative of my e-ring. However, the design of the ring is *very* much my style (low profile, very unobtrusive in day to day life, fiance and I picked it out together, sentimental value...) so perhaps I will develop a blind eye to the flaws of the stone I think a blind eye in this matter is something I will need to aquire. Makes me nervous to post a picture of it here! Hah!

I won''t lie: this might happen. It did to me, for a while. I stepped away from the forums for a couple of months (at the time I was mostly a lurker so I doubt anyone else noticed anyway, not that they necessarily would now...), paid more attention to the rings that I actually saw in everyday life, and realized that, you know, mine was really nice.

And the thing about the Colored Stones subforum, which I think can get a little bit lost sometimes in a couple of the others, is that the posters here are very much appreciative of the little things that make stones unique and special. It''s easier to feel okay about liking stones that have some flaws. If you happen to like gems that have some gray in their color, or show interesting zoning, or have cool inclusions, that is 100% fine. Whereas if you like warmer-colored diamonds, people will generally say ''oh that''s fine if it''s your thing'' but there''ll be three dozen posts a day implicitly saying that tinted diamonds are baaaaddd and, at best, a compromise to save some money. In CS it''s much easier to just like what you like without having to swim against a constant stream of lock-step thinking about what makes a ''good'' stone.

So if ever you do start to feel that way about your e-ring, even a little bit, it''s okay and normal. And it will pass. Just reflect on how much it means to you and how special it is, and how beautiful that individual, unique gem really is.

Woah, that''s a very nice message

I shall take it to heart. I do tend to get critical of things, so I was kind of concerned. So when it happens I''ll just take a step back and just pay attention to what I''m seeing rather than what I know.

Acceptable (even desired) flaws is one of the things that is turning me on to emeralds. But that''s a dangerous path, and I shall follow it later

 

[Novel]

Date: 12/17/2009 10:54:57 AM
Author: gingersnap

Date: 12/17/2009 8:46:04 AM

Author: Chrono

Do not worry about what others think of your ring. You don’t worry about what they think of your home, car, work and etc, correct? It was chosen with care and good intentions so wear it proudly.


Should you one day in the future find any “flaws”, it’s time for an upgrade.

Nah, I was just kidding.

It''s almost like uploading a picture of my car to a car enthusiast forum. I like my car just fine, but it doesn''t exactly belong on an enthusiast forum.


I posted a picture of my ring anyway, because unlike cars, gems are all about the visual. And I''m in love with the setting (and yes, i love my stone too

) and I''m sure someone else might like to see the setting as well as I haven''t seen anything like it here yet. I''ll still be nervous about it, but as you may have seen I let myself be nervous about a number of things.


As for upgrades... I like the idea of ''additions'' rather than... replacements

I think its more than just about the visual. Its also about, at least for me, seeing the way people relate to their gems and the feelings they have for their pieces. This isn''t just a car, this is your e-ring! It stands for something and it tells us something about you!!

 

[gingersnap]

Date: 12/17/2009 11:10:09 AM
Author: Novel

Date: 12/17/2009 10:54:57 AM
Author: gingersnap

Date: 12/17/2009 8:46:04 AM

Author: Chrono

Do not worry about what others think of your ring. You don’t worry about what they think of your home, car, work and etc, correct? It was chosen with care and good intentions so wear it proudly.


Should you one day in the future find any “flaws”, it’s time for an upgrade.

Nah, I was just kidding.

It''s almost like uploading a picture of my car to a car enthusiast forum. I like my car just fine, but it doesn''t exactly belong on an enthusiast forum.


I posted a picture of my ring anyway, because unlike cars, gems are all about the visual. And I''m in love with the setting (and yes, i love my stone too

) and I''m sure someone else might like to see the setting as well as I haven''t seen anything like it here yet. I''ll still be nervous about it, but as you may have seen I let myself be nervous about a number of things.


As for upgrades... I like the idea of ''additions'' rather than... replacements

I think its more than just about the visual. Its also about, at least for me, seeing the way people relate to their gems and the feelings they have for their pieces. This isn''t just a car, this is your e-ring! It stands for something and it tells us something about you!!

Heh, i did post it

if I really had felt it wasn''t appropriate I wouldn''t have. I love seeing everyone else''s jewelry, especially the reasons of why they went for what. And then the settings... very cool. The car thing is just an analogy to explain the nervousness.

 

[movie zombie]

i don''t think there is anything wrong with over time developing one''s eye and realizizing that the e-ring stone isn''t necessarily what that person would buy now that 1-that person has learned more re color stones and/or 2-can now afford a better stone.

i see nothing wrong with upgrading one''s e-ring over time JUST AS MANY DO WITH DIAMOND e-rings.

i would also point out that most color stone consumers have no idea what constitutes a good stone v. a fine stone and any flaws/imperfections you may eventually see with your stone will never even be noticed by the average person.

but most important of all is the symbol that stone represents...........and that never changes regardless of the development of one''s eye through education.

mz