diamondbuggy
Shiny_Rock
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Hi everyone!
I need your opinions on something. My FI and I decided a long time ago that we wanted to get married 17 December 2011. There are a few reasons that we like this date. It's 3 days after our 10 year anniversary (most important reason), that weekend is a long weekend so it's easier for guests, I like the number 17, it's also my MOH's birthday and she's so excited we picked that date.
We picked our date over a year ago because my FI has some family overseas and we wanted to give everyone enough time to plan finances so they can come over to SA for our wedding. So, since we've known the date for so long I feel like I'm so used to it already.
Now the problem comes in with the venue. I went to see a venue yesterday that I absolutely love! It's the most beautiful place I've ever seen! But they already have a provisional booking for my date. What happens now is they have to give this other person 7 days to decide if she really wants the venue and to pay the deposit. I only get it if she can't/won't pay within the next 7 days. So now I'm really stressed about this because I really want this venue! I can't imagine anyone not taking it. But if she doesn't then everything works out so no problems.
They did tell me that the 3rd of December is free and that they'll put my name down for that in case the 17th doesn't work out. But the 3rd just doesn't feel right to us. It will also be before our 10 year anniversary so it almost feels like we'll just miss that 10 year mark. I know that sounds kind of silly but I've always imagined telling my children the story of our their parents dated for 10 years before they got married. Am I being really lame?
So I'm really confused! What do I do if the 17th doesn't work out? Do we give up on the perfect venue and settle for someplace else just so we can have the perfect date? Or do we give up on the date so we can have the perfect venue? Please help!
I need your opinions on something. My FI and I decided a long time ago that we wanted to get married 17 December 2011. There are a few reasons that we like this date. It's 3 days after our 10 year anniversary (most important reason), that weekend is a long weekend so it's easier for guests, I like the number 17, it's also my MOH's birthday and she's so excited we picked that date.
We picked our date over a year ago because my FI has some family overseas and we wanted to give everyone enough time to plan finances so they can come over to SA for our wedding. So, since we've known the date for so long I feel like I'm so used to it already.
Now the problem comes in with the venue. I went to see a venue yesterday that I absolutely love! It's the most beautiful place I've ever seen! But they already have a provisional booking for my date. What happens now is they have to give this other person 7 days to decide if she really wants the venue and to pay the deposit. I only get it if she can't/won't pay within the next 7 days. So now I'm really stressed about this because I really want this venue! I can't imagine anyone not taking it. But if she doesn't then everything works out so no problems.
They did tell me that the 3rd of December is free and that they'll put my name down for that in case the 17th doesn't work out. But the 3rd just doesn't feel right to us. It will also be before our 10 year anniversary so it almost feels like we'll just miss that 10 year mark. I know that sounds kind of silly but I've always imagined telling my children the story of our their parents dated for 10 years before they got married. Am I being really lame?
So I'm really confused! What do I do if the 17th doesn't work out? Do we give up on the perfect venue and settle for someplace else just so we can have the perfect date? Or do we give up on the date so we can have the perfect venue? Please help!