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What is worse than that is the fact that this grandmother violated her granddaughter's privacy on facebook. The fact that she has been molested by father will be on the internet forever. That grandmother put that information on the internet for HER OWN emotional gain and didn't give a lick of a shit for her granddaughter's feelings.VRBeauty|1466090037|4044764 said:Gypsy - I'm so sorry you went through that, but I have to thank you for posting not only your experience but your thoughts and reflections on it.
I cringe when I see parents who are constantly taping their kids and asking them to smile/mug/emote whatever for the camera or cell phone. It makes me feel like a curmudgeon, but I hate the thought of those kids growing up and feeling like they need to put on a display for their parents' approval.
Several months ago someone in one of my facebook groups posted that they just found out that her granddaughter, a girl of maybe 3 or 4, had been molested by her father (the parents are separated but the father had visitation rights). Of course there was an outpouring of concern and support.
A few days later the grandmother posted a video of the little girl that was apparently shot by g'ma's daughter, the little girl's mother. The girl is looking right into the camera and smiling, and being coached to say "hi" and "thank you" and "I'm alright." Except that she couldn't quite get the "I'm alright" part out.
I wish I had said something at the time about how inappropriate I thought the video was - making that little girl act and emote and basically put on a display for the needs of the adults around her. I'm sure that it all seemed benign to the women involved, but to me it seemed like implicitly telling that child, once again, that the needs of the adults around her mattered more than her own feelings.
But I'm kind of on the outside of that group and, people pleaser that I am, I didn't speak up.
Gypsy, you've given me the courage (and words) to speak up should I see something like that again.
Sorry for the thread-jack.
Then am I reading this right, the grandmother FILMED THE GIRL and put her on the internet, further violating her future privacy? What the hell is wrong with this woman? Has she lost her freakin mind?
The internet and facebook is no place to reveal another person's sexual assault. If someone wants to reveal their own sexual assault, that their choice.
Wow.