I am a semi regular poster, but have created an alias in order to maintain some privacy. About a week ago I found out that I am pregnant. I was on birth control, but obviously it failed. We are really struggling with whether we should keep this baby or not. I am married, but we are just starting out and have a very small, one bedroom condo that we are underwater on, so pretty much stuck here until the market turns. We have very little in savings ( 3 months expenses or so) that we were hoping to build upon in 2011. It is also very bad timing professionally. I also had a full set of dental X-Rays a few days before we found out.
If those were the only issues, I probably wouldn't even be writing this, however we are grappling with something else. My husband has a fairly serious genetic condition which causes an enlarged aorta and separation of the layers of the aorta, which can cause it to tear - usually resulting in death. It also causes enlarged heart valves that can/will need to be replaced at some point, severe nearsightedness, dislocated lenses in the eye, retinal detachment, which if not caught in time can lead to blindness. My husband grew up not being able to participate in sports, struggling mightily in school because of his very poor vision, and not being able to lift objects greater than 20 lbs. He also just lost his father to an aortic dissection at the age of 58. Overall, my husband feels like he has not been able to lead a life that he would have wanted and has always said that he doesn't want his children to have to struggle the way he has and we have always planned to do IVF with pre-implantation genetic diagnosis to ensure that we would have a child without this syndrome. What would you do?
If those were the only issues, I probably wouldn't even be writing this, however we are grappling with something else. My husband has a fairly serious genetic condition which causes an enlarged aorta and separation of the layers of the aorta, which can cause it to tear - usually resulting in death. It also causes enlarged heart valves that can/will need to be replaced at some point, severe nearsightedness, dislocated lenses in the eye, retinal detachment, which if not caught in time can lead to blindness. My husband grew up not being able to participate in sports, struggling mightily in school because of his very poor vision, and not being able to lift objects greater than 20 lbs. He also just lost his father to an aortic dissection at the age of 58. Overall, my husband feels like he has not been able to lead a life that he would have wanted and has always said that he doesn't want his children to have to struggle the way he has and we have always planned to do IVF with pre-implantation genetic diagnosis to ensure that we would have a child without this syndrome. What would you do?