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Brilliant_Rock
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The title might not fit 100% but it's how I feel, like he's making excuses to push me back and not have an honest discussion.
Okay, a little background...
We've been together a little over a year. I am 24 and he is 25. My bf, K, is a law student, about to start his second year. I am a lobbyist in DC with my own plans for law school and want to start in 2010. Also, I think it's relevant to note that I was raised in a small town in the midwest, and K grew up in California, but has a decidedly east coast attitude about marriage.
I have made it no secret that I want to get married in the next 5 years. I don't think we're ready to get engaged yet, but I do want to know that's where we're headed. When we had been together around 6 months, I asked him where he thought this relationship was going, and he said he didn't know. This morning, I brought it up again, and again, he said he didn't know, and that I need to just relax and enjoy where we are right now. I tried to push the issue and he said, "If I tell you we're definitely getting married, then we're already engaged without a ring." I said something like, are you just never going to get married to anyone? Do you see me as someone you might marry? And he said, "Okay, fine, MAYBE we are going to get married someday."
Well sh*t.
I don't think it's unreasonable for me to be asking about this right now. Am I wrong to be pushing it? What is up with the whole, "if we talk about it we're as good as engaged" thing?
Okay, a little background...
We've been together a little over a year. I am 24 and he is 25. My bf, K, is a law student, about to start his second year. I am a lobbyist in DC with my own plans for law school and want to start in 2010. Also, I think it's relevant to note that I was raised in a small town in the midwest, and K grew up in California, but has a decidedly east coast attitude about marriage.
I have made it no secret that I want to get married in the next 5 years. I don't think we're ready to get engaged yet, but I do want to know that's where we're headed. When we had been together around 6 months, I asked him where he thought this relationship was going, and he said he didn't know. This morning, I brought it up again, and again, he said he didn't know, and that I need to just relax and enjoy where we are right now. I tried to push the issue and he said, "If I tell you we're definitely getting married, then we're already engaged without a ring." I said something like, are you just never going to get married to anyone? Do you see me as someone you might marry? And he said, "Okay, fine, MAYBE we are going to get married someday."
Well sh*t.
I don't think it's unreasonable for me to be asking about this right now. Am I wrong to be pushing it? What is up with the whole, "if we talk about it we're as good as engaged" thing?