*RubyRN*
Shiny_Rock
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- Aug 3, 2007
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This is my first post on LIW, and it will probably sound familiar to some of you ladies so I''ll try to keep it short:
Been with my BF for 6 years, lived together the last year, love him to death although he sometimes frustrates me to no end. I have 4 very close girlfriends who I''ve known for 10+ years. 3 of the 4 have gotten married in the last 6 months, my BF and I have been together longer than all but one of those couples. The last girl left besides me has been with her BF for just over 2 years, and thinks he''s getting ready to propose soon (although she isn''t sure she wants to marry him). As many of you have said before, I am bombarded on a daily basis with questions like "Why hasn''t he proposed yet? When is he going to do it? Do you guys talk about it? What''s he waiting for? How long are you going to wait?" etc. etc. etc. My friends and family just won''t back down! The worst are the ones from the newly engaged and married girls - those realllllllllly get under my skin. It''s like we''ve talked about this several times and if anything had changed, I would already have told them so STOP asking PLEASE
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Now that I''ve vented some, I feel like we have a pretty strong relationship and it has really solidified over the last year. I became a nurse a little over a year ago, and this first year in the hospital (in addition to some family problems this year ) has been incredibly stressful for me and has effected our relationship, at first it made it worse but in the end it has made us stronger and more supportive of each other. It''s been really hard seeing all of our friends getting engaged and married because he knows that I''m ready now and starting to get impatient. We know that we want to get married, but for whatever reason he says he''s still "scared of marriage". He assures me that he''s not scared of marrying me, and that he knows I''m the one he wants to be with, but when I ask him what he''s scared of, he can''t give me an answer
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A couple of months ago he randomly started asking me questions about whether or not I like so-and-so''s e-ring, how about so-and-so#2''s e-ring? Shortly thereafter, he asked my friends (at one of their weddings) what kind of a ring I would like, and one of his friends was sort of hinting to me that it was coming. HOWEVER nothing happened. I got all excited and started looking at rings and stuff ( I didn''t say anything to him because I want the ring and the proposal to be completely up to him) and NOTHING HAPPENED. He''s not really the type to plan an elaborate secretive surprise, so i no longer think somethings coming. Last night, He said, "interesting pictures of jewelry I found on the computer" (meaning some e-ring pix i had saved JUST in case..). I got all teary-eyed and told him that someone had hinted awhile ago that it he was getting ready to propose so "I started looking at rings and got all excited but it obviously wasn''t true". He looked like he felt bad, asked me who told me that, and then said "I''m not saying it isn''t true".
I''m sick of waiting and even more sick of thinking about all of this. I''m happy with our relationship otherwise, but this is REALLY wearing on me. I''m sure you''ve heard this before, so I appreciate your listening to my rant (if you made it through the whole thing!)
Been with my BF for 6 years, lived together the last year, love him to death although he sometimes frustrates me to no end. I have 4 very close girlfriends who I''ve known for 10+ years. 3 of the 4 have gotten married in the last 6 months, my BF and I have been together longer than all but one of those couples. The last girl left besides me has been with her BF for just over 2 years, and thinks he''s getting ready to propose soon (although she isn''t sure she wants to marry him). As many of you have said before, I am bombarded on a daily basis with questions like "Why hasn''t he proposed yet? When is he going to do it? Do you guys talk about it? What''s he waiting for? How long are you going to wait?" etc. etc. etc. My friends and family just won''t back down! The worst are the ones from the newly engaged and married girls - those realllllllllly get under my skin. It''s like we''ve talked about this several times and if anything had changed, I would already have told them so STOP asking PLEASE
Now that I''ve vented some, I feel like we have a pretty strong relationship and it has really solidified over the last year. I became a nurse a little over a year ago, and this first year in the hospital (in addition to some family problems this year ) has been incredibly stressful for me and has effected our relationship, at first it made it worse but in the end it has made us stronger and more supportive of each other. It''s been really hard seeing all of our friends getting engaged and married because he knows that I''m ready now and starting to get impatient. We know that we want to get married, but for whatever reason he says he''s still "scared of marriage". He assures me that he''s not scared of marrying me, and that he knows I''m the one he wants to be with, but when I ask him what he''s scared of, he can''t give me an answer
A couple of months ago he randomly started asking me questions about whether or not I like so-and-so''s e-ring, how about so-and-so#2''s e-ring? Shortly thereafter, he asked my friends (at one of their weddings) what kind of a ring I would like, and one of his friends was sort of hinting to me that it was coming. HOWEVER nothing happened. I got all excited and started looking at rings and stuff ( I didn''t say anything to him because I want the ring and the proposal to be completely up to him) and NOTHING HAPPENED. He''s not really the type to plan an elaborate secretive surprise, so i no longer think somethings coming. Last night, He said, "interesting pictures of jewelry I found on the computer" (meaning some e-ring pix i had saved JUST in case..). I got all teary-eyed and told him that someone had hinted awhile ago that it he was getting ready to propose so "I started looking at rings and got all excited but it obviously wasn''t true". He looked like he felt bad, asked me who told me that, and then said "I''m not saying it isn''t true".
I''m sick of waiting and even more sick of thinking about all of this. I''m happy with our relationship otherwise, but this is REALLY wearing on me. I''m sure you''ve heard this before, so I appreciate your listening to my rant (if you made it through the whole thing!)