bubbly1126
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So I feel really bad for my BF.
He just started a new job as a Corrections Officer in August and let''s just say, he hates it.
I feel really bad because he was so excited for this new position and now it''s just not at all what he thought and has dreaded going to work for the past 1-2 weeks.
We sat down and had a talk about it the other night. He told me he didn''t know what to do because he really wants to give this a good shot and not just jump the gun and not really give it time BUT he just doesn''t see it getting any better. It''s not that the job is hard at all, actually, his main complaint is that he doesn''t do anything. He feels like a glorified babysitter and he hates it. If there is one thing I know about my BF it''s that he HAS to be constantly on the go. If he''s off for a couple days at a time he goes CRAZY if he doesn''t have something to do each day. He''s just that type of person and I guess these past 2 months or so haven''t really been as action-packed as he would like. (He knew it wouldn''t be exciting every day but he also didn''t forsee it being this boring, which is the problem.)
He also said that he could go back to his old job at the same prison that he works for now, but we''d take a major pay-cut. Like 10k a year less, which makes a huge difference for us. This is the only thing that''s stopping him from resigning as a CO and taking his other job back. (His old job is held for him for up to one year so it would not be an issue.)
Hearing this obviously made me realize that a proposal will be far off for us if he does decide to go back to his old job... but you know what? I don''t care. The only thing that truly matters to me is his happiness and I told him so. I told him "don''t think about the money, don''t think about anything other than what is going to make you happy. You can''t wake up every day and dread going to work. It''s not healthy for you and in turn is not healthy for your day to day relationships. It causes unnecessary stress and when it comes down to it, it''s not worth it. I will support you in whatever you decide to do and I don''t want you to ever feel bad or anything about whatever decision that you do make. You have to be happy so do whatever it is that is going to make you truly happy."
He looked as if he were about to cry and said "thank you. I truly appreciate that." He also decided to joke around and say "you''d support me even if I wanted to join the coast guard?" I said yes, but that if he really wanted to do that then I didn''t want to wait to get married, I wanted to do it right now. He smiled and said okay. LoL. (Not sure what that was about... or if he truly wants to and was just feeling me out on the topic...) But then later on he said he didn''t think he could because he wouldn''t want to be away from me for long periods of time and that 8 hours a day is a bit too much as is. Aww. He''s so sweet. Hehe.
Oh, I don''t know. Things are just so up and down career-wise with us both so I guess I''m really not expecting a proposal for a couple more years. Ohh well, all in due time. It''ll happen when it''s meant to and in the mean time, I''m just going to keep sticking by and supporting my man.
He just started a new job as a Corrections Officer in August and let''s just say, he hates it.
I feel really bad because he was so excited for this new position and now it''s just not at all what he thought and has dreaded going to work for the past 1-2 weeks.
We sat down and had a talk about it the other night. He told me he didn''t know what to do because he really wants to give this a good shot and not just jump the gun and not really give it time BUT he just doesn''t see it getting any better. It''s not that the job is hard at all, actually, his main complaint is that he doesn''t do anything. He feels like a glorified babysitter and he hates it. If there is one thing I know about my BF it''s that he HAS to be constantly on the go. If he''s off for a couple days at a time he goes CRAZY if he doesn''t have something to do each day. He''s just that type of person and I guess these past 2 months or so haven''t really been as action-packed as he would like. (He knew it wouldn''t be exciting every day but he also didn''t forsee it being this boring, which is the problem.)
He also said that he could go back to his old job at the same prison that he works for now, but we''d take a major pay-cut. Like 10k a year less, which makes a huge difference for us. This is the only thing that''s stopping him from resigning as a CO and taking his other job back. (His old job is held for him for up to one year so it would not be an issue.)
Hearing this obviously made me realize that a proposal will be far off for us if he does decide to go back to his old job... but you know what? I don''t care. The only thing that truly matters to me is his happiness and I told him so. I told him "don''t think about the money, don''t think about anything other than what is going to make you happy. You can''t wake up every day and dread going to work. It''s not healthy for you and in turn is not healthy for your day to day relationships. It causes unnecessary stress and when it comes down to it, it''s not worth it. I will support you in whatever you decide to do and I don''t want you to ever feel bad or anything about whatever decision that you do make. You have to be happy so do whatever it is that is going to make you truly happy."
He looked as if he were about to cry and said "thank you. I truly appreciate that." He also decided to joke around and say "you''d support me even if I wanted to join the coast guard?" I said yes, but that if he really wanted to do that then I didn''t want to wait to get married, I wanted to do it right now. He smiled and said okay. LoL. (Not sure what that was about... or if he truly wants to and was just feeling me out on the topic...) But then later on he said he didn''t think he could because he wouldn''t want to be away from me for long periods of time and that 8 hours a day is a bit too much as is. Aww. He''s so sweet. Hehe.
Oh, I don''t know. Things are just so up and down career-wise with us both so I guess I''m really not expecting a proposal for a couple more years. Ohh well, all in due time. It''ll happen when it''s meant to and in the mean time, I''m just going to keep sticking by and supporting my man.