zdrastvootya
Shiny_Rock
- Joined
- Sep 2, 2004
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ok, here''s a hot topic. I figure all of us have behaviours that we bring into a relationship that our spouses aren''t keen on. In the interest of marital harmony, we learn to modify them.
Stereotypically, for guys its picking up socks, clothes, cleaning up after eating, etc. Stereotypical for women, I don''t even want to speculate on.
But what about more ingrained behaviours? Not to a major extent, but I find Mrs. Z has a tendency towards the denial/excuse/rationalization mode (seems like it''s almost automatic). We''ve been married almost 2 years now. Is this something you can change in a partner? I think you can, but that it needs to be done in a supportive way and not in a monster, confrontational, back-a-person-in-a-corner way.
I''m seeing threads about crazy MIL''s, and the denial/excuse/rationalization seems to be a major feature. Not that Mrs. Z. shows a level described in those threads, but I''m getting a little spooked. In the end, I think my advice to myself is that we need to have a conversation.
Z.
Stereotypically, for guys its picking up socks, clothes, cleaning up after eating, etc. Stereotypical for women, I don''t even want to speculate on.
But what about more ingrained behaviours? Not to a major extent, but I find Mrs. Z has a tendency towards the denial/excuse/rationalization mode (seems like it''s almost automatic). We''ve been married almost 2 years now. Is this something you can change in a partner? I think you can, but that it needs to be done in a supportive way and not in a monster, confrontational, back-a-person-in-a-corner way.
I''m seeing threads about crazy MIL''s, and the denial/excuse/rationalization seems to be a major feature. Not that Mrs. Z. shows a level described in those threads, but I''m getting a little spooked. In the end, I think my advice to myself is that we need to have a conversation.
Z.