Hello all,
This is my first post and unfortunately it is one of ranting. I have been dating my guy for almost 4 years now and everything is great... Except for the fact that I am embaressed by him sometimes... Well, actually just when he drinks. He is naturally a very outgoing person and EVERYONE loves him because he is always the life of the party and a truly great friend. My problem is that he can be a bit much to handle when he drinks and always ends up (in my opinion) being too loud, talking over people and not realizing when to shut up. I have talked to him about it but he dismisses it by saying that his friends know how he is and they are used to it. I also talked to one of his close friends last night and although he saw my point, he told me that no one is really offended by him and that he has good intentions (which I know). I understand that he has been friends with these people for years and years, but I just feel that as everyone else is evolving, he is "stuck" in the role of class-clown. Of all of his very successful friends, he is the most-educated, well-rounded, caring and successful one but i feel that his goofy and boisterous behavior shadows all of his good qualities. He never acts like this when we are alone and I feel like he feels obligated to be the one to get the party started, at the cost of his (and my) image. I am fine when he is just around "the boys" but he is unable to see the difference between hanging out with the boys and having a couples dinner. I would love some advice on how to handle this and I apologize for the rambling...
This is my first post and unfortunately it is one of ranting. I have been dating my guy for almost 4 years now and everything is great... Except for the fact that I am embaressed by him sometimes... Well, actually just when he drinks. He is naturally a very outgoing person and EVERYONE loves him because he is always the life of the party and a truly great friend. My problem is that he can be a bit much to handle when he drinks and always ends up (in my opinion) being too loud, talking over people and not realizing when to shut up. I have talked to him about it but he dismisses it by saying that his friends know how he is and they are used to it. I also talked to one of his close friends last night and although he saw my point, he told me that no one is really offended by him and that he has good intentions (which I know). I understand that he has been friends with these people for years and years, but I just feel that as everyone else is evolving, he is "stuck" in the role of class-clown. Of all of his very successful friends, he is the most-educated, well-rounded, caring and successful one but i feel that his goofy and boisterous behavior shadows all of his good qualities. He never acts like this when we are alone and I feel like he feels obligated to be the one to get the party started, at the cost of his (and my) image. I am fine when he is just around "the boys" but he is unable to see the difference between hanging out with the boys and having a couples dinner. I would love some advice on how to handle this and I apologize for the rambling...