thegreattriscuit
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Jan 28, 2006
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any help here would be appreciated
So we''ve got our long distance thing going on (international, even!), and.... neither of our financial situations is really great.... mine is decent for the short to mid term but not long, and hers was pretty bad, and now just plain sucks. So with that said, the dillema:
She''s seriously considering proposing to me. I mean... "I have no idea" of course... but... she is. I mean, I suppose I could be wrong... but... yeah, she is... and I''m about 80% sure she was going to do it the next time she comes to visit me (in March).
Now, that kinda freaked me out a bit at first, as, y''know... I really, really want to propose to HER during that same time span there... but that can be worked out... y''know? I was just planning to have her e-ring ON me for the duration of the trip, wait for her to propose, and then ask HER. Maybe something along the lines of
GF: "will you marry me"
**GF shows ring, or whatever other token she chooses... if she decides to go that route at all... I certainly don''t NEED anything from her, but I just get the feeling that she''s leaning in that direction**
ME: "well, only if you marry ME"
**Show ring**
okay, soooo... I mean, yeah, it''s rough, and there would probably be some knee dropping, ring slipping, and other due improvisations in there, but you get the idea...
NOW, question number one:
If I propose BACK at her, and she figures out that I knew (or suspected) that she was going to propose, is that running the risk of her feeling that I ruined the "suprise" factor? I''ve uh... actually DONE that a time or two already with her, and really don''t want to risk doing it again with something as important as this.
And question number two:
as I mentioned, her financial situation has recently worsened... she had been making references to "a really really big secret", and all around treating it DIFFERENTLY than previous suprises she''s set out for me (did I mention she''s awesome? seriously... she''s so good to me it''s apalling), and just giving those "vibes"... then her finances went down the tube, and now "the big secret" has to be "postponed", and alot of those "pre-suprise vibes" have fallen away...
So now I''m faced with the possibility that she was PLANNING to propose with some kind of token (ring or whatever), CAN''T because of her finances, but still WANTS to... and then *I* come along, and ask HER before she has a chance to ask ME... is she going to feel cheated out of her moment? I mean... if she''s only doing it because she doesn''t think I''ll be able to work up the courage to propose to her, then that''s one thing... but if this is something she really wants to do... and has really fallen in love with the idea of getting to propose to me...
do you see the dillema? or am I just being paranoid? Should I wait untill her finances improve? Drop hints that I don''t need any kind of token (it could be a turkey sandwich for all I care, really...)??
any ideas?