Whenever I''m upset by comments/advice offered by those I respect, I stop to ask myself why it upsets me.
In most cases, people are upset by comments/advice that we know deep down to be accurate. If we know that they don''t apply for whatever reason (the person doesn''t know us well, they''re basing their opinion on misinformation, etc.) then we tend to mentally shake our heads and move on. If there''s something to it, the natural reaction is to get defensive and annoyed.
When my husband and I decided to get married, we got a few "are you sure?? you''re so young!" reactions - but they were all from strangers or distant acquaintances. It didn''t bother me, because the reactions from those I respect (family, close friends, etc.) were completely supportive.
All I''m saying is - think about the source(s) of these reactions, and why it is that you''re reacting the way you are to them. You might surprise yourself, if you choose to be honest with yourself.
In most cases, people are upset by comments/advice that we know deep down to be accurate. If we know that they don''t apply for whatever reason (the person doesn''t know us well, they''re basing their opinion on misinformation, etc.) then we tend to mentally shake our heads and move on. If there''s something to it, the natural reaction is to get defensive and annoyed.
When my husband and I decided to get married, we got a few "are you sure?? you''re so young!" reactions - but they were all from strangers or distant acquaintances. It didn''t bother me, because the reactions from those I respect (family, close friends, etc.) were completely supportive.
All I''m saying is - think about the source(s) of these reactions, and why it is that you''re reacting the way you are to them. You might surprise yourself, if you choose to be honest with yourself.