hopefulheidi
Shiny_Rock
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After almost 6 years of dating, and way too many months as #1 on the LIW list I have it on good authority that my ring is in the works. Nate has had the diamond since March (and I''ve been trying it on almost every day since it arrived hehe) and just this week he finally emailed my jeweler of choice about getting the ring started. I also know that he has already submitted the 50% deposit and provided my jeweler with a number of the photos that I sent him this weekend. At this rate, the ring should be completed by the middle of July, right in time for the proposal that he promised to make before we attend our old college roommate''s wedding.
(As an aside, Nate and I met our senior year of college and we have been dating ever since. Our roommate from senior year did not meet his girlfriend until about 3 years ago and in that amount of time they''ve purchased a house, gotten engaged, and planned a wedding. I told Nate there was really no way I could emotionally handle going to this wedding knowing that they''d been together half as long as Nate and I and that I''ve seriously been waiting for a proposal longer than their entire relationship has lasted. We''ve obviously been getting closer to an engagement ourselves, but this event has helped to speed things up a bit.)
So why this post?
I''m a bit concerned that I''m not more excited at this point
It''s not that I don''t love Nate or that I have any doubts about our relationship; actually the longer we''re together, the more certain I am that we can make this thing work. I''m really just disillusioned by the whole engagement process. After so many years of dating and all of the stress, disagreements, and disappointments that have arisen about this topic over our time together, I kind of just feel "over it". At this point the ring, the proposal, heck even the wedding, just don''t seem all that important or enticing. It''s as if I''ve just burned myself out and I''m having a hard time of undoing my lack of enthusiasm about all of this.
Has anyone else felt a lack of excitement by the time the proposal came around? How did you get past it?
I''m sure I will be freaking out when he actually proposes, but I''d really like to be able to enjoy the entire process. Any ideas?
~Heidi
(As an aside, Nate and I met our senior year of college and we have been dating ever since. Our roommate from senior year did not meet his girlfriend until about 3 years ago and in that amount of time they''ve purchased a house, gotten engaged, and planned a wedding. I told Nate there was really no way I could emotionally handle going to this wedding knowing that they''d been together half as long as Nate and I and that I''ve seriously been waiting for a proposal longer than their entire relationship has lasted. We''ve obviously been getting closer to an engagement ourselves, but this event has helped to speed things up a bit.)
So why this post?
I''m a bit concerned that I''m not more excited at this point
It''s not that I don''t love Nate or that I have any doubts about our relationship; actually the longer we''re together, the more certain I am that we can make this thing work. I''m really just disillusioned by the whole engagement process. After so many years of dating and all of the stress, disagreements, and disappointments that have arisen about this topic over our time together, I kind of just feel "over it". At this point the ring, the proposal, heck even the wedding, just don''t seem all that important or enticing. It''s as if I''ve just burned myself out and I''m having a hard time of undoing my lack of enthusiasm about all of this.
Has anyone else felt a lack of excitement by the time the proposal came around? How did you get past it?
I''m sure I will be freaking out when he actually proposes, but I''d really like to be able to enjoy the entire process. Any ideas?
~Heidi