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I'm probably going to ramble a bit, and probably not be very clear, which I have a tendency towards these days, so I apologize in advance. That video really disturbed me and made me think. It made me examine my own comfort level, and the tricky part of the issue is that the level varies from woman to woman but I guess I can only speak for myself. The one situation where I would feel comfortable with a man saying hello is if I was out for a walk in my suburban neighborhood and a guy walking his yellow lab glanced over and said hello in a casual way. It's normal to say a quick hello to others in my neighborhood and everyone greets each other. And maybe in an airplane if I guy said hello as he was sitting down in the seat next to me, just a quick acknowledgement in a normal tone of voice. It seems pretty standard to give a short greeting in that situation, at least to me. But I'm thinking of other situations - I would feel uncomfortable if a man said hello to me as I was walking down a crowded street, in a store, in a restaurant, on a bus, or some fairly public place where I felt there was no reason for any kind of greeting and I was being singled out.
Well, I was right, I rambled, but I guess the bottom line is that, for me, it depends on the environment, tone of voice, and overall demeanor of the person. I'm vaguely bothered by my "it's ok in certain situations but not others" response but I think all of the things I just mentioned do come into play, and I can honestly say that in most situations I would prefer to be ignored lol. I do think a good rule of thumb for a man is if he wouldn't say hello to a man in a certain situation, he shouldn't say it to a woman either.
Well, I was right, I rambled, but I guess the bottom line is that, for me, it depends on the environment, tone of voice, and overall demeanor of the person. I'm vaguely bothered by my "it's ok in certain situations but not others" response but I think all of the things I just mentioned do come into play, and I can honestly say that in most situations I would prefer to be ignored lol. I do think a good rule of thumb for a man is if he wouldn't say hello to a man in a certain situation, he shouldn't say it to a woman either.