Well Girls... I need advice as to what to do.
I have been ''Marie''s'' friend for the past eight years. We have went through hell and high water together. We started dating our current bf''s two years ago. She got engaged back in December, and has planned a wedding in Spring of ''06.
In the past two years I have seen Marie 5 times. She can never just come over, go out for coffee, or meet up for dinner. She is attached to her fiance at the hip. I had emergency surgery in the spring, and she did stop by to see me- but her fiance must have called eight times to see when she was coming home.
She can never come out with the ''girls''- even if its just for dinner. To put it simply- they cannot partake in anything unless they are together.
Here''s the problem- I cannot control who she marries- if she is happy, then it is her life. But I can control whether I stand up in this wedding.
I was involved in NONE of the planning- neither were her other bridesmaids. I simply do not feel close to her anymore. I have no interest in standing up in this wedding, and I feel horrible for it. She was my best friend for six years, and now she has dissapeared off the face of the earth.
I have already picked up my bridesmaid dress, but at this point I do not feel bad being out of $175.
Am I being completely out of line? What do I do?
I have been ''Marie''s'' friend for the past eight years. We have went through hell and high water together. We started dating our current bf''s two years ago. She got engaged back in December, and has planned a wedding in Spring of ''06.
In the past two years I have seen Marie 5 times. She can never just come over, go out for coffee, or meet up for dinner. She is attached to her fiance at the hip. I had emergency surgery in the spring, and she did stop by to see me- but her fiance must have called eight times to see when she was coming home.
She can never come out with the ''girls''- even if its just for dinner. To put it simply- they cannot partake in anything unless they are together.
Here''s the problem- I cannot control who she marries- if she is happy, then it is her life. But I can control whether I stand up in this wedding.
I was involved in NONE of the planning- neither were her other bridesmaids. I simply do not feel close to her anymore. I have no interest in standing up in this wedding, and I feel horrible for it. She was my best friend for six years, and now she has dissapeared off the face of the earth.
I have already picked up my bridesmaid dress, but at this point I do not feel bad being out of $175.
Am I being completely out of line? What do I do?