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Brilliant_Rock
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Thought I''d see if anyone here had some insight on this topic...
My best friend got pregnant last January, 2005. Her husband had been having an affair and decided to leave her for the other woman (he went to live with the other woman). He adamantly did not want the baby but my friend wanted it, knowing she''d be raising it as a single mom. Baby was born in October and now soon-to-be-ex-husband wants shared custody of the newborn. To make a very long story short, she''s afraid to fight him too much b/c she''s afraid a judge will grant shared custody of the baby. She''s been extremely accommodating...driving half the 20 mile distance to meet him for pick-up/drop-off of the baby when he has scheduled visitation. We all keep telling her to stop being so accommodating to him but she thinks that if she plays nice now, that she''ll be able to negotiate with him less than shared custody. (His motivation for this is assumed to be reducing his child-support payments.) She has been saying that she''d play hard ball with him if she knew that a judge would deny shared custody and overnight visits.
Anybody have any experiences they can share about this? It just doesn''t seem like a judge would view it to be in the best interest of the BABY to have overnight visits or shared custody. Plus, she''s breast-feeding but baby is also taking a bottle now. This is in the state of Wisconsin. She''s a social worker and a lot of her colleagues have said that you never know what a judge is going to decide so from them she''s gotten little hope.
Thanks! I know this is a painful topic...
My best friend got pregnant last January, 2005. Her husband had been having an affair and decided to leave her for the other woman (he went to live with the other woman). He adamantly did not want the baby but my friend wanted it, knowing she''d be raising it as a single mom. Baby was born in October and now soon-to-be-ex-husband wants shared custody of the newborn. To make a very long story short, she''s afraid to fight him too much b/c she''s afraid a judge will grant shared custody of the baby. She''s been extremely accommodating...driving half the 20 mile distance to meet him for pick-up/drop-off of the baby when he has scheduled visitation. We all keep telling her to stop being so accommodating to him but she thinks that if she plays nice now, that she''ll be able to negotiate with him less than shared custody. (His motivation for this is assumed to be reducing his child-support payments.) She has been saying that she''d play hard ball with him if she knew that a judge would deny shared custody and overnight visits.
Anybody have any experiences they can share about this? It just doesn''t seem like a judge would view it to be in the best interest of the BABY to have overnight visits or shared custody. Plus, she''s breast-feeding but baby is also taking a bottle now. This is in the state of Wisconsin. She''s a social worker and a lot of her colleagues have said that you never know what a judge is going to decide so from them she''s gotten little hope.
Thanks! I know this is a painful topic...