MINE!!
Ideal_Rock
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It has been a crazy crazy week.
As you know, my hubby and I got married last year @ the JOP and had our wedding this spring. I have my two children, who are now going to be 8 and 11. (UGH!! they grow fast) My DH has none of his own..
He loves my children and I know that he does. But I know he wants one that is part of him as well. He is 39 and I am 31, so he wanted to have child before you got too far up there.
We had decided that we were going to start trying this next fall.
Sometimes accidents happen, and one happened recently. BC is not always 100% foolproof, as we all know. We took 2 preg and they were both positive. We were very happy. But I was a little nervous, considering that once it we found out.. well I started thinking about diapers and late nights and how long it had been and how old my children were. But as everyone here may know... I love children and after a while, the thought of having another angel was just awesome!!! Soon after, I seemed to have started my period and I took another test and it was negative. (the 2 positives were not even the same tests) I was very confused. But it was early, so my OB said not worry, that somethingw as probably wrong with it and my body was just looking out for me and got rid of it. That about 65% of all pregnancys end this way without women even knowing they were pregnant.
But the story gets more interesting. Well:
DH and I started talking about it and decided that we would just go ahead and start trying earlier than we had thought about.
Here is the kicker... and here is where I get angry. My husband has RA. He takes a drug called Methotexrate. We asked his Dr. if it was okay for me to get pregnant while he was taking it. HE (the specailist) said yes, that my husband was taking low enough doses that it would be alright and should not pose a thread to the developement of the baby and that the only thing we may have to worry about is low sperm count. Well, I called my OBGYN and metioned it to him. I thought he was going to crawl through the phone and grab me. NO NO NO he says. They give Methotexrate to people who have etopic pregnancies to end the pregnancy. He said is causes sperm mutation which leads to birth defects. OMG.. I think.... My OB says... that the risk is high and for women they never should have children on Meth. and for men, they should not father them either.
However, we did some research on it. Most thigns say that he hould discontiune use for 3 months and that everything should return to normal and there is not chance of Birth defects after this "cleansing " period. That means my DH will have to use another med. for this period of time, till I get pregnant. It has been a sad and stressful week. Of course it is impossible to get a second opinion, considering you have to be a patient.
We called back his RA specailist and he said that it was fine since it was such a low does, regardless of what my OB said. However, we are running with what the OB. said instead. But I suppose the worst thing is, that mnow that have thought I was perg, not pregnant now and waiting to change around med. and watching and realizing my kids are older, but somehow ... deep inside.. still thining about another baby, but not really... I am just a mess...
Just wanted to vent and say that I am sad, upset, relieved and confused all at the same time.
As you know, my hubby and I got married last year @ the JOP and had our wedding this spring. I have my two children, who are now going to be 8 and 11. (UGH!! they grow fast) My DH has none of his own..
He loves my children and I know that he does. But I know he wants one that is part of him as well. He is 39 and I am 31, so he wanted to have child before you got too far up there.
We had decided that we were going to start trying this next fall.
Sometimes accidents happen, and one happened recently. BC is not always 100% foolproof, as we all know. We took 2 preg and they were both positive. We were very happy. But I was a little nervous, considering that once it we found out.. well I started thinking about diapers and late nights and how long it had been and how old my children were. But as everyone here may know... I love children and after a while, the thought of having another angel was just awesome!!! Soon after, I seemed to have started my period and I took another test and it was negative. (the 2 positives were not even the same tests) I was very confused. But it was early, so my OB said not worry, that somethingw as probably wrong with it and my body was just looking out for me and got rid of it. That about 65% of all pregnancys end this way without women even knowing they were pregnant.
But the story gets more interesting. Well:
DH and I started talking about it and decided that we would just go ahead and start trying earlier than we had thought about.
Here is the kicker... and here is where I get angry. My husband has RA. He takes a drug called Methotexrate. We asked his Dr. if it was okay for me to get pregnant while he was taking it. HE (the specailist) said yes, that my husband was taking low enough doses that it would be alright and should not pose a thread to the developement of the baby and that the only thing we may have to worry about is low sperm count. Well, I called my OBGYN and metioned it to him. I thought he was going to crawl through the phone and grab me. NO NO NO he says. They give Methotexrate to people who have etopic pregnancies to end the pregnancy. He said is causes sperm mutation which leads to birth defects. OMG.. I think.... My OB says... that the risk is high and for women they never should have children on Meth. and for men, they should not father them either.
However, we did some research on it. Most thigns say that he hould discontiune use for 3 months and that everything should return to normal and there is not chance of Birth defects after this "cleansing " period. That means my DH will have to use another med. for this period of time, till I get pregnant. It has been a sad and stressful week. Of course it is impossible to get a second opinion, considering you have to be a patient.
We called back his RA specailist and he said that it was fine since it was such a low does, regardless of what my OB said. However, we are running with what the OB. said instead. But I suppose the worst thing is, that mnow that have thought I was perg, not pregnant now and waiting to change around med. and watching and realizing my kids are older, but somehow ... deep inside.. still thining about another baby, but not really... I am just a mess...
Just wanted to vent and say that I am sad, upset, relieved and confused all at the same time.
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