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Shiny_Rock
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My SIL (DH''s sister) is in town visiting for the week. she lost her job in May and wanted to visit us, so of course I said it was ok. We see her when we visit his family over Christmas (she lives at home), but she hasn''t stayed with us for a week before.
I have a very light work load this week, so I''ve been home a lot. My husband is at work during the day.
SIL got here Tuesday morning. She napped on the couch all AM. When she got up, I told her that later on I was going to grab coffee with a friend around the corner and I invited her. She didn''t want to come. She read some on the couch. Tuesday night DH and I went to the gym and she stayed at our place. I made dinner after. I asked her if there was anything she wanted to do the next day, and she told me that I didn''t need to entertain her.
Today, I invited her to lunch with me. She originally said yes, but then changed her mind and said she wasn''t going to be ready in time. She spent the entire day laying on our couch watching TV or on her laptop. We exchanged very few words.
It seems like every attempt I''ve made to spend time with her and have a relationship with her hasn''t gone as planned. I feel like she''s made it clear that she is here to visit her brother, not me. If I come along while they hang out, that''s fine, but I''m not needed.
We are exactly the same age (2. I get that we''re never going to have the relationship I''d like (getting our nails done, shopping, etc), but I''d like to have some sort of relationship. My husband says that I''m overreacting and that I just don''t "get" her. I''m social and outgoing, she is not. I like to be entertained, but she came here to get away from her parents and just relax. I just don''t understand this at all, and I find it rude for someone to be a guest at my house and not really want much to do with me.
Please tell me if I''m overreacting, if you''ve dealt with a similar situation, or if you have any advice!!!!!!
I have a very light work load this week, so I''ve been home a lot. My husband is at work during the day.
SIL got here Tuesday morning. She napped on the couch all AM. When she got up, I told her that later on I was going to grab coffee with a friend around the corner and I invited her. She didn''t want to come. She read some on the couch. Tuesday night DH and I went to the gym and she stayed at our place. I made dinner after. I asked her if there was anything she wanted to do the next day, and she told me that I didn''t need to entertain her.
Today, I invited her to lunch with me. She originally said yes, but then changed her mind and said she wasn''t going to be ready in time. She spent the entire day laying on our couch watching TV or on her laptop. We exchanged very few words.
It seems like every attempt I''ve made to spend time with her and have a relationship with her hasn''t gone as planned. I feel like she''s made it clear that she is here to visit her brother, not me. If I come along while they hang out, that''s fine, but I''m not needed.
We are exactly the same age (2. I get that we''re never going to have the relationship I''d like (getting our nails done, shopping, etc), but I''d like to have some sort of relationship. My husband says that I''m overreacting and that I just don''t "get" her. I''m social and outgoing, she is not. I like to be entertained, but she came here to get away from her parents and just relax. I just don''t understand this at all, and I find it rude for someone to be a guest at my house and not really want much to do with me.
Please tell me if I''m overreacting, if you''ve dealt with a similar situation, or if you have any advice!!!!!!