Hudson_Hawk
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During the initial few weeks after LO arrived, were you and DH/SO both home together? How much of that time was really spent with each other and the baby? Did you each take shifts watching LO, did you still need alone time? DH and I are contemplating a project at home and the timing of the project. It would be great to do while we're both home after Aidan is born but I've been told we'll both just be SO devoted to taking care of the baby and house it's simply not realistic. The project I'm talking about is replacing the carpet in the upstairs hallway of our townhouse. We have room to "live" for the day or two the project would take on our first floor so being around dust, etc wouldn't be an issue.
My feeling is that DH and I get along great when we have stuff to do together, but we definitely need alone time away from each other. Especially when we don't have things to occupy our time. I know I'd be really peeved if DH, in an effort to avoid being bored, played video games or did work for the job he hates and is on a break from. I'd be just as annoyed if he hovered over me all the time. And DH also isn't a cleaner or a cook. I'd rather have him go and do something constructive for 60% of the time and then help and take over for the other 40%. Obviously if he wants more time with the baby I'll gladly give it.
How did you manage your time together and your alone time while you were both home with the LO after birth?
My feeling is that DH and I get along great when we have stuff to do together, but we definitely need alone time away from each other. Especially when we don't have things to occupy our time. I know I'd be really peeved if DH, in an effort to avoid being bored, played video games or did work for the job he hates and is on a break from. I'd be just as annoyed if he hovered over me all the time. And DH also isn't a cleaner or a cook. I'd rather have him go and do something constructive for 60% of the time and then help and take over for the other 40%. Obviously if he wants more time with the baby I'll gladly give it.
How did you manage your time together and your alone time while you were both home with the LO after birth?