Hello everyone,
Just to share with you folks here about my proposal on the 24th December 2007.
I have been with my gf for 7 years and last christmas I was ready to propose to her. It was christmas eve, I brought her to a restaurant serving Brazalian BBQ meat, afterwhich suggested that we should take a cable car ride which was about 10 minutes walk away. Up in the cable car, I proposed using the following poem:
"There comes a time in every men's life,
Where he must take a chance to choose a wife,
That time has finally come to be,
So will you take a chance and marry me?"
Everything seemed to be going on smoothly till then but it went downhill once we were back to ground level.
Apparently she had certain expectations (which i found out that I've indirectly gave her those expectations) about how much the proposal ring should cost. She initally assumed that the ring would have costed me over 3 thousand dollars as she said this to me when we came down from the cable car tower "aww.. you must have spent quite an amount of money for this ring". To which I responded telling her the exact amount i spend as i didnt want to 'lie' to her abt the cost and told her that the ring costed me 1.3k dollars. At that moment, she frowned and i sort of panicked and tried to explain myself and said things like.." Actually this ring isnt a lousy ring. The size of the diamond is 0.32 carats, E colour and has VVS2 clarity. Its cheaper than those advertised 'special cut' diamonds from the same coy i purchased the diamond ring just becoz they are marked up to cover their high marketing cost etc etc "
My explanation became the ultimate nightmare for me because it turns out that my gf felt that I spoiled the whole proposal for saying something like that which made her felt like shes only worth this much in my eyes and not more. Since the proposal, we have been quarrelling often with the above mention event (more of what i had said then) being the cause of it. However, i do not think that I was in the wrong since I've always felt that a proposal ring is only a symbol to signify the proposal but ultimately its my sincereity that counts.
Right now me and my gf are in the midst of our wedding preparation but we still haven straighten this issue out as she still thinks that i was the one who spoiled the proposal while I do not think that I should be responsible for what has happened. She felt that I should have said something like "I know that I cannot afford to buy you a very expensive ring now but will do so when I am earning more in the future"
To me, I can't stop myself from feeling that why on earth I have to say something like that? Afterall, the ring does not signify her value but more like a gift of love. In my opinion, she shouldnt have let the cost of a ring affect the proposal which I have sincerely planned and given to her.
What do you guys/gals think?
Just to share with you folks here about my proposal on the 24th December 2007.
I have been with my gf for 7 years and last christmas I was ready to propose to her. It was christmas eve, I brought her to a restaurant serving Brazalian BBQ meat, afterwhich suggested that we should take a cable car ride which was about 10 minutes walk away. Up in the cable car, I proposed using the following poem:
"There comes a time in every men's life,
Where he must take a chance to choose a wife,
That time has finally come to be,
So will you take a chance and marry me?"
Everything seemed to be going on smoothly till then but it went downhill once we were back to ground level.
Apparently she had certain expectations (which i found out that I've indirectly gave her those expectations) about how much the proposal ring should cost. She initally assumed that the ring would have costed me over 3 thousand dollars as she said this to me when we came down from the cable car tower "aww.. you must have spent quite an amount of money for this ring". To which I responded telling her the exact amount i spend as i didnt want to 'lie' to her abt the cost and told her that the ring costed me 1.3k dollars. At that moment, she frowned and i sort of panicked and tried to explain myself and said things like.." Actually this ring isnt a lousy ring. The size of the diamond is 0.32 carats, E colour and has VVS2 clarity. Its cheaper than those advertised 'special cut' diamonds from the same coy i purchased the diamond ring just becoz they are marked up to cover their high marketing cost etc etc "
My explanation became the ultimate nightmare for me because it turns out that my gf felt that I spoiled the whole proposal for saying something like that which made her felt like shes only worth this much in my eyes and not more. Since the proposal, we have been quarrelling often with the above mention event (more of what i had said then) being the cause of it. However, i do not think that I was in the wrong since I've always felt that a proposal ring is only a symbol to signify the proposal but ultimately its my sincereity that counts.
Right now me and my gf are in the midst of our wedding preparation but we still haven straighten this issue out as she still thinks that i was the one who spoiled the proposal while I do not think that I should be responsible for what has happened. She felt that I should have said something like "I know that I cannot afford to buy you a very expensive ring now but will do so when I am earning more in the future"
To me, I can't stop myself from feeling that why on earth I have to say something like that? Afterall, the ring does not signify her value but more like a gift of love. In my opinion, she shouldnt have let the cost of a ring affect the proposal which I have sincerely planned and given to her.
What do you guys/gals think?