crossmyfingers
Shiny_Rock
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I have a timeline in my mind for when I believe BF should propose. It goes through a few more months from now. He has said getting married around May 2010 is a pretty big possibility, and that at the most it would be around the beginning of 2011. We don''t plan to have a wedding, and he only wants to be engaged for a few months, and I''ve told him I would like to be engaged at least three+ months to give it time to all sink in.
I''m not the kind of person who would give him an ultimatum. I think if my timeline passes and he still hasn''t proposed, I will have a serious talk with him. I wouldn''t leave him but I''m just not sure what I''ll say yet - something to let him clearly know how hard this is for me and that he needs to come up with a plan, basically. I''m hoping he''ll propose by then and I won''t have to say anything. But I''m a little afraid that he won''t ask by then, and I will have to talk to him, because I promised myself that.
My timeline is helping keep me patient and sane. Any time I think he should have friggin'' proposed already, I think, "Okay, well, he still has this much more time before that date..." and it seems a little better.
Do any of you have anything like this? A timeline that you''ve come up with on your own, or some other something you think of that helps keep you from going insane?
And I feel like I should say that if I told any of my friends/family about this idea, they would tell me I am crazy, but I know you all won''t. I''m sooooo grateful for that, you guys!
I''m not the kind of person who would give him an ultimatum. I think if my timeline passes and he still hasn''t proposed, I will have a serious talk with him. I wouldn''t leave him but I''m just not sure what I''ll say yet - something to let him clearly know how hard this is for me and that he needs to come up with a plan, basically. I''m hoping he''ll propose by then and I won''t have to say anything. But I''m a little afraid that he won''t ask by then, and I will have to talk to him, because I promised myself that.
My timeline is helping keep me patient and sane. Any time I think he should have friggin'' proposed already, I think, "Okay, well, he still has this much more time before that date..." and it seems a little better.
Do any of you have anything like this? A timeline that you''ve come up with on your own, or some other something you think of that helps keep you from going insane?
And I feel like I should say that if I told any of my friends/family about this idea, they would tell me I am crazy, but I know you all won''t. I''m sooooo grateful for that, you guys!