Date: 10/31/2009 4:39:20 PM
Author: neatfreak
Why would it be rude?
I am sorry if that happened to you but I think most people intentions for guessing the gender is all in fun. Hopefully that does not happen to too many people (if it does just ignore them)Date: 10/31/2009 5:36:18 PM
Author: mayachel
Date: 10/31/2009 4:39:20 PM
Author: neatfreak
Why would it be rude?
I think it could be seen as taking the attention off of the mom, and onto the friend who believes she knows the answer.
Date: 10/31/2009 7:14:56 PM
Author: Haven
I''ve seen people make uncomfortable observations about the pregnant lady while trying to guess the gender. They''ve said things like ''You''re carrying all your extra weight *here* and *here* so it''s definitely a girl.'' If I were the pregnant lady, I wouldn''t appreciate people telling me where my extra weight has pooled, if you know what I mean.
Otherwise, I don''t see how anyone could think a friend is trying to steal her attention by making a guess at the gender, that sounds like a very sensitive person.
Well I guess I would let your 4th friend be. It is probably fun that you have done well guessing (I think that is coolDate: 10/31/2009 7:27:39 PM
Author: mayachel
Wow, thanks everyone for your seemingly unanimous replies. I have a 4 very close friends who are/were pregnant over the past year and was excited to have had a dream about each one, and their baby to be. So far, I have a batting average of 3/4. (haven't heard about the 4th). I swear I don't jump up and down, or say any awful superstitions, (have you heard the one about how the baby has 'stolen the mother's beauty!? geesh, who says that?) I also don't put a lot of stock in it, but because they are close, I *DO* enjoy feeling like I somehow intuited it. Previously, it hasn't been an issue but the 4th friend has spoken generally about 'how presumptuous it is that family and friends think that they *know* what the gender is. Now, I haven't said anything to her, and haven't had an idea either, but she knows my glee at having been *right* with the last 3 of my girlfriends. In addition, none of these women really know or interact with one another, but do know each other through me.
Well I guess I would let your 4th friend be. It is probably fun that you have done well guessing (I think that is coolte:[/b] 10/31/2009 7:36:52 PM
Author: Skippy123
Date: 10/31/2009 5:59:15 PM
Author: qtiekiki
I really don''t get how it can be seen as the friend making the guess is attention whoring. I doubt if anyone cares what a friend''s gender guess is.
Date: 11/1/2009 11:33:10 AM
Author: somethingshiny
I don''t think it''s rude at all.
I am a guesser too. I''m rarely wrong.I''ve told my sis and SIL, many of my cousins and most of my friends what they''re going to have very early on. In fact a couple months ago an acquaintance said she couldn''t wait to find out what she was going to have. I told her it was a girl. She had her ultrasound recently, and it''s a girl.
My best friend has the same knack as does my mother.
I never try to put the attention on me by any means. I think I''ve only ever told the gender in one-on-one conversations, besides the most recent which took place publicly.
Agree...it''s fun having people guess, especially family/friends! BUT, the comments from strangers sometimes can cross the line ("stealing beauty"...yup got that one!, or insistence that they are right when they are not!). I had strangers say OH you are having a BOY. In one case I said, "actually no, it''s a girl, at least 99% sure it''s a girl" (I said it lightheartedly). Then the stranger said "Well I think they are wrong, I know you are having a boy. I''m always right"). OkkkkkDate: 10/31/2009 7:28:51 PM
Author: princesss
Date: 10/31/2009 7:14:56 PM
Author: Haven
I''ve seen people make uncomfortable observations about the pregnant lady while trying to guess the gender. They''ve said things like ''You''re carrying all your extra weight *here* and *here* so it''s definitely a girl.'' If I were the pregnant lady, I wouldn''t appreciate people telling me where my extra weight has pooled, if you know what I mean.
Otherwise, I don''t see how anyone could think a friend is trying to steal her attention by making a guess at the gender, that sounds like a very sensitive person.
Like the, ''Oh, you''re definitely having a girl! You know what they say, girls steal your beauty!'' Not cool. But I''ve never met a person that thought saying, ''Hmmm...I think it''s a girl!'' was inappropriate.