Last night by BFs mom asked in passing if I would ever consider a family heirloom ring because she went and got it out of the safety deposit box that morning. I was shocked as it is completely unexpected in every way. My BF and I have been dating for nearly 3 years and just bought a house a few months ago. We (or rather I) talk about marriage all of the time, and although he has said he will be marrying me, when it will happen is the big question. So, this question caught me totally off guard and now I am completely confused as to what to do. I told his mom that I had never considered an heirloom ring before and was unsure how I would feel about it. Which is true. After lurking on PS for a while I am kind of set on a 1ct AVC in a Leon Mege simple solitaire (no pave) setting. Something timeless and classic. She stated that the heirloom is somewhat smaller than the stones I have been drooling over. Not sure about anything else. Here is the problem, as i am not necessarily keen on an heirloom ring (although if the stone is nice i would certainly consider resetting it if that were acceptable to her), how do I address this without hurting her feelings? She did mention that it would be a great "starter ring" for me. I am not really looking for a starter ring, I would like something that I plan to wear for the next 40-50 years. No plans to upgrade!
Help please!!
Help please!!